What’s a Queen without a King? Well, historically speaking – more powerful! There was a when women had a good reason to lock it down with a man, because they were hunters, providers and protectors? Even then, some of them choose to take the lead and get their own shit done. So today, it’s alarming that this is even a topic of debate! In this day and age (with reports and studies as proof) women are a sizable chunk of the workforce and women are a few steps ahead in education too. According to a study published in 2010, for every 2 men that graduate, there are 3 women who do the same. So the question of why a woman needs a man to complete her doesn’t really have a definite answer.
We may not need men but that does not mean that we hate men and yes, we do want happy relationships. However, the trick lies in understanding the disparity between wanting and needing. Do we want a man in our lives? Sure! Do we need him to complete us and make us feel like we’ve finally achieved something? Maybe not! That’s a choice that’s ours; and each time a woman above 30 is frowned upon if she’s not married, or a Zulmi Aunty asks “Beta, shaadi nahi karogi kya?” it’s an attack on our whole being. It’s as good as saying, “Beta, shaadi nahi kiya toh kya kiya?” or “Beta, mard ke bina kaise jiyogi?”. So, please validate us by agreeing that our anger is justified… because without that, we might just crumble and die. Not.
Now if your argument is, “Of course you need a man… how else you will give birth?”, save it and brace yourselves, because we’re about to drop a truth bomb that may shake your misogynistic world up.Studies and reports state that close to 40 percent of babies are born to single moms, and there’s a very good chance that percentage will rise as the stigma of being a single mother decreases. And if that’s not enough, there’s also the fact that, thanks to technology, you don’t even need a man if you want to have a baby – all it takes is a trip to your nearest sperm bank!
As the American journalist Gloria Steinem rightfully said, “We are becoming the men we wanted to marry!”
