If you’re the one in your friend circle who constantly complains about being the “agony aunty” but can’t stop yourself from giving advice and spreading those nurturing instincts–prepare to relate!
We all know how this goes. A close friend goes through a breakup and you lend her your shoulder to cry on. You spend hours, and sometimes even months, talking her out of it, and try showing her the bright side. She, on the other hand, is in a fit of rage–hating on the man who broke her heart. She swears to never ever forgive him. As you encourage this, and give her all the, “Yeah, now that you’re gone, he’s going to know your worth!” kinda pep talk, somewhat convinced that THIS time around, she’s actually done with the douche. However, old habits die hard, and your friend decides to give him “one last chance” yet again.
In moments like these, the friend in you tries hard to find the good in the situation, and support your friend’s rather crappy decision … but ladies, we all know how this is much easier said than done, right? Hours of mehnat gone down the drain, she’s turned a deaf ear to all those famous love quotes, you put up with all that rona dhona for nothing–that’s got to be hard to digest! Feeling a sense of irritation in such a situation is only natural, don’t we know it.
If you have gone through a similar situation, here are some thoughts that would’ve surely crossed your mind. Have a good laugh, and don’t forget to share this article with THAT friend!
1. You’ve got to be kidding me
Obviously, the very first thought you have when such a tragedy occurs is, “Are you fuc*&ng kidding me, right now?” It’s a mixed bag of emotions, with anger and frustration at their peak. At this point, your friend has probably sensed how enraged you are, and if she knows what’s good for her… she’ll give you space and time to cool down.
2. But what about all the shit you spoke about him?
The very next thought you have is, “Wait … but what about all those horrible things you told me about him? Is that cancelled?” Since your friend probably ran him down to you like never before, you probably made judgements about the guy based on those disses. Was that coming from a place of anger or are all those things really true about him? You start to question everything.
3. So much for the “I don’t need a man to make me happy” line!
Post her breakup, and after all the girly pep talk you gave her, your friend and you decide that this day is the beginning of the rest of your new lives as single women. The two of you were supposed to hit the single-club and dance to Beyonce’s Single Ladies. Well, that clearly ain’t happening!
4. You’re going to get fed-up, AGAIN
When she gets back to that annoying ex, you think to yourself, “Girl, he’s gonna play you dirty again!” You don’t wish it, but you know this can’t be it. It’s too soon for him to turn over a new leaf and change his ways. Your friend is only postponing disaster.
5. You didn’t even give him time to repent or miss you!
Chal, you give her the benefit of the doubt. People forgive and forget, and they’re allowed to. But when so much drama goes down, and you go through a whirlwind of emotions – the saner thing to do before you accept him back with open arms, is (at least) take a short break to give him time to realise that he messed up. But no! You find your friend running back into his arms, like it’s been a decade since they’ve parted. Sheesh!
