There is no definite way or reason to break up with someone. At times, one may not even realise that the relationship has run its inevitable and circumstantial course. That’s when the dilemma begins – the big question mark in front of you that screams if you should break up with your partner or stick together.
If you are wrestling with a similar situation, ask yourself these important relationship questions to decide.
5 Important relationship questions that help decide if you should break up with your partner
1. Am I considering this breakup due to external factors or genuine internal feelings?
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Analysing why you and your partner got to a point where you are considering to part ways is step one. Find out the root cause of the differences between you and your partner or the primary reasons behind the break-up. Evaluate your internal feelings and external circumstances that have led you to take this decision.
When you can answer this question with a clear mindset, you can decide better if you want to stay together or break up.
2. What would be the potential consequences of staying in the relationship versus parting ways?
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Think through each scenario in the consequences of breaking up as well as staying together. If breaking up solves your problems and gives you hope for a better future, go ahead with it. But if staying together has its pros, take a decision to stick together and solve your problems.
Thinking of emotional, psychological, and personal consequences of both the situations could help you get perspective and make a better decision about your relationship.
3. What are my deal breakers and have I compromised with any of them?
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We tend to ignore the imperfections and flaws of our partners when we are head over heels in love. But if you contemplate outside of your relationship, you may find certain flaws in your better half that you may have overlooked during the course of your sweet romance.
By asking this question, you take off the rosy red glasses and look at your partner with naked eyes. Ascertain what your deal breakers were when you were single and if you threw them out of the window when you fell in love.
4. Are we communicating openly and honestly?
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Do not drop the curtains on the relationship without talking about it. Do not consider your affair dead in the midst of a silent treatment or a brief break. Ensure to talk it out with your partner in detail about the reasons behind your breakup.
Candid communication could give hopes to reconcile and work on the relationship. Burying your feelings and not speaking up would only lead to further resentment between you two.
5. Am I happy with my partner?
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Perhaps the paramount of all the questions is this one – are you genuinely happy or just going through the motions and feigning your interest in them. Think hard about when you were ecstatic about spending time with your partner. If you have a tough time finding the answer, consider taking up the breakup path.
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