Whoever told you that sex is secondary in a relationship shouldn’t be trusted. To sustain a happy relationship, sex is important. As important as trust, respect, love, understanding and every other aspect in a relationship. It’s an unfortunate situation for a couple if either of them stops initiating any kind of intimacy or doesn’t make an effort to get in bed. It’s a clear sign that they are not enjoying sex. Or rather that the sex isn’t the same between the two of them anymore. The spark is lost!
Here are some of the signs you might have been overlooking all this while and find out whether that spark between you two has been lost.
1. They treat it like a routine
Whether your partner is truly into it or not is something for you to understand. If their gestures while making love seem robotic and mechanical to you, you can’t ignore them. It’s a sure sign they are treating it as a task so as to not disappoint you. Sex can’t be a routine. If your partner is not kicked about trying new ways for pleasure, it’s a sign. If they don’t respond as they did initially or feel passionate about it, you need to raise the concern and talk it out. If you keep ignoring it, it will only pile up, making it a stressful environment in the bedroom. We are sure you don’t want that.
2. If hugs and pecks are not so frequent anymore
The best way to know whether your partner’s interest in getting intimate has gone or not is to note if the hugs and pecks are as frequent as they were earlier. We know that hurts. If your partner has stopped touching you the way they always did, it’s a sign. It could be they are stressed out for some reason, but if it’s a prolonged thing, you need to talk it out and not keep quiet. Your partner’s physical touch is important, and that touch needs to be passionate from both the ends.
3. No foreplay
Well, it may surprise you, but we are sorry to break it to you: if your partner rushes into the climax and doesn’t care about foreplay at all, you probably need to watch out. No caresses and instead rushing through sex is never a good sign. While in most cases, they might come up with an excuse that they are tired or stressed out, if this goes on you need to give it a thought. Sex is an art, not a chore you need to get done with.
4. They switch topics every time you try to talk it out
There might be situations where you actually want to discuss the issue with them, but they ignore it or change the topic. Not a healthy thing to do in a relationship, right? Talk it out with your partner and try to figure a way out. If need be, consult a sexologist. Most of the times, it’s stress that keeps you from getting intimate. If you prefer having an intimate conversation over sex, you must.
5. If they pass out before you do
This is perhaps the most convenient way to avoid sex. To say, “I am tired, had a bad day, or feel sleepy”, and hit the bed much earlier before you do is a striking red flag in your relationship. If that becomes a pattern, they are clearly avoiding you and not in the mood to have sex with you.
6. If your touch irritates them
The most terrible of all the signs is to see your partner getting irritated every time you touch them. Even a normal peck on their cheeks or holding their hand in the middle of a conversation annoys them. It’s a strong indicator that your partner is not enjoying sex with you.
