It’s 2019 ladies, so go ahead make the first move in the bedroom. The idea of a woman who likes sex and is not afraid to ask for it still intimidates many people. Female sexuality has long been controlled by constructs like ‘virginity’ and ‘honour’. The women who exercise their agency, choose their partner, and prioritise their sexual pleasure are told that they have lost their honour and deserve all the shame that society heaps on them. Is there any woman who has not experienced this slut-shaming? So, why give the haters any mind?
The conditioning is hard to shake off though and many of us find ourselves unable to vocalise our desire, even when we have made up our mind to pursue our desires. But the fear is worth facing, because once you take control of your body and your desire, you will be able to verbalise all your fantasies and actually experience them. Amen!
So, let music come to your rescue, girlfriend. Music often is the perfect segue from regular to raunchy. Nothing sets the mood like a good slow jam, or some braggadocious bars detailing sexual prowess–so take your pick. Let Rihanna spell out exactly what you want your partner do to you. Don’t know how to ask him to go down on you? Why not blast Khia’s iconic 2002 bop “My Neck My Back” in the car so he gets a clue. Want a song to seductively take off your clothes, give Lana Del Rey’s breathy “Burning Desire” a listen. Want to invite a third person into your equation, give your partner a hint with Teyana Taylor’s “3Way”. In the list below, you will definitely find something to suit your vibe.
