Marriage is a wonderful thing, but it does require some fine-tuning every now and then. If your marriage has crossed the five-year mark, chances are you’ve run out of things to do to keep the spark alive.
If you’re looking for ways to keep the boat afloat, maintaining a healthy sex life is imperative. We’re going to say it: Trade in the vanilla tactics for something a little more risqué. Here’s where you can start…
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1. Exchange your sexual bucket lists
A long-term relationship yields many conversations, including some that centre on sexual fantasies. It’s time to turn one of those into reality. Make a list of the things you both want to try sexually (we’d recommend being as explicit as possible).
Then, exchange your lists to see if both have anything in common. Zone in on things you both would like to try. Or, make an exception for one another, especially if one partner has a particularly wetter appetite for kink.
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2. Mutual masturbation FTW
Mutual masturbation could be your secret sexy weapon to a revitalised sex life. We don’t know about you, but watching a partner self-pleasure while you do the same has its perks. And, if both of you are busy working professionals with very little time on your hands between Zoom calls, this form of partner sex is time-friendly.
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3. Add some kink
As stated earlier, when you’ve tried it all sexually, turning it up a notch by exploring a few kinks could be a marriage-saver. Engage in an open conversation about ways in which both of you would feel comfortable if the kink factor kicked in, including bondage, new sex toys, or forms of role play previously unexplored. Swap shopping on Amazon for a virtual visit to a sex toy store.
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4. Schedule a special delivery
…Of the raunchy kind. When getting ready for work in the morning, make sure your partner notices if you’ve purchased sexy lingerie. During the course of the day, spring a surprise by parcelling the exact same lingerie in an envelope to their office. Who doesn’t like a good package?
5. Create erotica
If shooting NSFW home videos is not your thing, why not send erotic texts during the course of the day? If you’re looking to make it explosive, put off having sex for a week and stick exclusively to trading steamy text messages. Let’s just say that the pay-off will involve a no-holds-barred reunion in the bedroom.
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6. Role play with no boundaries
While role play might be a bedroom staple, why not take it up a notch by taking it outside? Pretend to be strangers for a night and meet up at a bar (arriving there separately). When you two ‘meet’ at the bar, engage in flirtatious conversation and then check into the nearest hotel for a night of unbridled passion.
The use of alternate identities can be liberating, allowing both of you to push the boundaries of sexual pleasure. Sometimes a new, alien environment can help you tap into unexplored parts of yourself as a lover.
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