The incognito tab on Google has probably enabled more orgasms than most men have. Most men, however, are likely to disagree. A few years ago, when Twinkle Khanna dropped a truth bomb on the Koffee With Karan couch saying, “Women aren’t like faucets, that one twirl, you turn them on and everything gushes… it takes more effort,” she spoke for all of us. Today, Bigg Boss 14’s Kashmera Shah chatted exclusively to iDiva, touching upon everything from Indian women struggling to own their sexual desires to Indian men being the most selfish species in bed.
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A 2019 survey by Durex India found that nearly 70% of Indian women never had orgasms. Commenting on this, Kashmera said, “I don’t think 98% of Indian women know what an orgasm is and the remaining 2% feel guilty about having an orgasm or owning their sexual desires. I have never seen a more selfish breed than Indian men. The ones that know the female anatomy are doctors; the rest are pornography educated. I doubt that they know how to pleasure a woman. In fact they think the sounds that a woman fakes is her pleasure. In fact I feel all women are superb actresses!”
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For years on end, women have been faking orgasms to make men feel better about themselves. Still haven’t figured where the problem lies? Well, while he may finish feeling satisfied that he was able to pleasure both you, and ultimately himself, you are left turned on, with nowhere to release all that sexual energy. Kashmera agrees. “We are years away from being honest with men and the day that will happen it will either be great success or a stupendous orgasmic failure,” she said.
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Unless you’re a girl who likes to play with toys or doesn’t mind exploring the fantasy that awaits online, you will be frustrated. And while your battery operated tool or some porn could help you out and give you a glimpse of ecstasy, what are you going to do about the guilt you feel, everytime you lie to your man? It’s a vicious circle. Sharing her thoughts on women using sex toys for pleasure, Kashmera said, “I think it’s better to hide. Indian girl children are considered a burden. Imagine a burden knowing how to pleasure herself. That is completely unheard off. And we as a breed don’t want our men to feel inadequate and helpless.”
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Nevertheless, facts are facts. “The truth still remains that Jane had to rescue a Tarzan or else he would still be stuck in a tree somewhere. I am not saying all men don’t know. I am saying they have no interest in knowing or learning and the few that know are very few and rare!” she added.
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“Her first role is to be a wife”
We asked Kashmera if she thinks an Indian woman’s sex life drastically changes after marriage. She said, “I think these things happen when a woman gives birth. She changes from a wife to a mother. This role change does affect her and his sex life. I feel a woman should be more to blame here and understand that her first role is to be a wife and being a mother is important but you don’t have to sacrifice one relationship to maintain the other.”
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Indian beliefs spell contradiction. The land that considers sex unholy also inspires men to sire literature like the Kamasutra. We claim to be righteous but statistics show more than 75% men end up cheating in relationships. “Anything can make a person stray… He did not speak to me properly, he does not pay attention, she does not cook for me, she has become overweight, he is too involved with work, I have to look after the kids, I don’t like sex… so many reasons! A varied number of reasons can lead to misunderstanding and loss of love. It’s never one incident that makes someone stray. I always say a one night stand may be ok but an affair is not, as one consciously decides to have a relationship outside the marriage and make someone else important,” believes Kashmera.
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Would she forgive a one night stand? Kashmera answered, “There is a huge difference between sex and love. Some people can have sex without being in love (mainly men). Women fall in love after the first kiss (women are that stupid). For most couples, one night stands are forgivable but not affairs that involve emotional connection.”
Do you agree with Kashmera’s thoughts? Let us know in the comments.
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