Love is unconditional, but your self-respect is NOT. A relationship is always conditional, and it’s better to know where you draw the line. If it doesn’t measure up to your self-worth, it’s not worth it. Love is all about respect, and you can’t compromise on that. Often in a relationship, you come across situations where you let go of certain things to avoid fights and arguments for all the love you have for your partner.
Loving your partner unconditionally doesn’t equate to them disrespecting you or treating you however they want. Loving someone doesn’t mean you put up with everything. If you have been doing that in your relationships, tolerate all the abuse and ill-treatments thrown your way, you should stand in front of the mirror and ask yourself: “do I really deserve that?” The answer should be a loud NO. Nobody does! Ask yourself if it’s worth it, and the answer again should be that you can do so much better. You are so much better off without such a partner.
Yes, loving someone does mean you accept the bad and the good, but it doesn’t mean you let someone mistreat you. It doesn’t mean you let someone act superior or dominate you all the time. If your partner does that, it’s not love. It’s a sense of ownership where they believe they have got the right to push you the way they want. Love is about equal rights; no one is superior than the other. It’s all about creating the right balance and harmony.
Yes, love teaches you to do all that you can to save your relationship, but it also teaches you to love yourself first and not let anyone mistreat you. Relationships are supposed to be healthy bonds between two individuals who treat each other with the utmost respect and dignity. If your relationship lacks the basics, it’s probably time for you to watch out for the red flags before it’s too late. When you love someone madly and unconditionally, you often end up forgiving them too soon. Well, forgiving and being the bigger person doesn’t mean you let that person stay in your life to make it a living nightmare for you. More importantly, it’s for you to understand and come out of your little bubble and realise that if a person loves someone, they will try to rectify their mistakes and blunders and not repeat them. Love is all about evolving and getting better, together.
It’s probably time you stop letting them get away with hurting your feelings. It’s time you put yourself first, stand up for yourself, and be with a person who doesn’t mess with your dignity and respect.
