The biggest reason for most breakups is bad communication. You say something, your partner gets a different message. Result: misunderstanding. It’s a very simple thing but most of us are victims of bad communication. We bottle up our feelings and assume that the other person will understand. But how? If we do not open up, how can they ever know what’s going on in our mysterious minds? Misunderstandings and bad communication are part and parcel of our daily lives but they are easy to solve. How? Read on.
1. Listen to them
We all are bad listeners. We all receive half-baked messages because we are in a hurry to make our point. What’s the hurry? What’s the harm if we let the other person complete their sentence? But we hardly do that. We butt in, interrupt and make a complete mess of the situation. We fail to realise that the least we could do in a relationship is listen. The key to communicating is listening. The more we listen, the more we understand.
2. Address your concerns
Your partner isn’t God. Your partner can’t read your mind. So discuss things. If you have a concern, raise the issue and thrash it out instead of keeping it to yourself. Getting it out in the open often leads to solutions while holding on to it, creates suffocation. So instead of making things more messy by piling them up, always address your concerns.
3. Ask questions, legit ones
There’s no harm in asking questions. You ain’t God either. If you find your partner struggling with something, ask about his/her problem. They might be shy to open up so it is up to you to ask the correct questions so that they can open up.
4. Stop making assumptions
Don’t assume, please. Assumptions sting a relationship and often lead to massive misunderstandings. If you’re unsure, talk and converse but don’t assume. It may take time but so be it. Don’t try to be smart by assuming. Assumptions always leads to disasters you regret later.
5. Ask for their feedback always
There’s nothing wrong in asking for feedback. Your partner is the person closest to you and we all should welcome constructive feedback. It only makes us better as a person and helps us understand a different point of view. Constant feedback also keeps us on our toes and makes the bond stronger.
