Millennials have a lot of sex, but they struggle with intimacy. The problem? Emotionally-unavailable and cautious lovers. As is commonly understood by gen X, shedding off clothes does not equal shedding off layers of caution, any longer. Your deepest fears, your secrets, and your joys–all in all, you are different from your social image. This interconnected world, where information is easily accessible, is bringing out the duality in people. Separation of the public and the private becomes an aggressive fight to hold onto your uniqueness. With all of this combined, one decides to enter into a relationship and chaos ensues.
In the battlefield of modern-day relationships, outgoing, loving, and understanding people will win half the battle for you. These are your emotionally-available partners! We acknowledge that being the go-to person in someone’s life requires effort and courage. While it is a safe space for the said emotionally available partner, it is overwhelming for their emotionally closed-off counterpart. Here are a few things an emotionally available person does in a relationship more often than anyone else:
A prompt texter
These people realise what it means to want someone–be it for advice, help, distraction, or just a chat. They see a text and they choose to take out that one minute from their schedule to respond. The response is never monosyllabic–it is a well formulated and original sentence(s).
These people are not afraid of phone calls either. They might just pick up your call after the first ring, in the middle of the night, or even during a night out with friends. They will not cut the call during important meetings or drop a ‘Can’t talk’ text’. They will pick up and let you know they will call you back with an added ‘I love you’.
They show up when they said they would
Imagine sneezing into your one-day old hanky for the hundredth time, refusing to go boil water for your sore throat. The bell rings. You are welcomed with a cheery ‘hello’ and warm chicken soup. Yes! This emotionally-available person finished up their work in half the time, did not show a single sign of discomfort, and came for their sick partner–just like they promised.
That theatre play 20 kilometres from home, the boring movie, the new coffee shop, and just basically any plan is adhered to because of these committed people. They do not want to let you down or leave you feeling alone.
Not commitment phobic
Not just sticking with meeting plans, these people do not think twice before committing themselves to a person and relationships. The much-dreaded talk of ‘exclusivity’ is just a stepping stone in the domain of relationships.
They choose, they accept, they mould–but they remain true to themselves. They do not choose you out of pity, fear, or even because they are too nice to say no. They choose you because they want it for themselves.
Unafraid and evolving
Emotionally-unavailable partners tend to have a secret aspect to their lives– maybe it is a backup plan or something they themselves don’t understand–but they have a safe space. Emotionally available partners, on the other hand, are unafraid in relationships. They accept their own flaws as easily as they accept yours.
They also don’t emotionally beat down their partners for obedience. They are open to changing their beliefs about relationships to make it a more amiable space to coexist in. Insecurities do not exist in the same space as their relationships, either.
They are busy, but not for you
The title says it all. In a world of rush and puff, some people will not treat you as a burden. You will be cherished by your partner because you are their ‘break’ on a busy day. It turns out that some of the morals from old-wives tales are actually true–people take out time for those they want to.
Each person is special, and we appreciate the diverse emotions we come across in our lives because of these people. But today we celebrate emotionally available partners!
