First thing I’d like to address here is when I say family, I mean extended ones and when I say wedding, I mean my very own sister’s so the game play here has been very difficult right from the start.
How did it happen?
On the very first night, I introduced him to a couple of aunts and uncles. Thankfully the event had an overflow of alcohol and other questionable substances, so everyone was in a merry and welcoming mood. My pishi also sized up his arm with hers so I thought everyone was pretty okay with him being around. All in all, it was a great start to the introduction bit.
Even for the Bangalore leg of the wedding, he flew down for and stayed in the same hotel as my whole family. I thought it would be weird but at the end of it, all of my other friends were also staying there so the situation got diffused. G even took the initiative to speak to everyone on all occasions and did not mind me not being around. At the end of the 10-day long madness, here are a few things I learned.
1. It depends on your family
A lot of us come from conservative families and introducing boyfriends, especially when marriage is not even in the prospect of conversation, is not the greatest idea. Thankfully enough, my parents have never had that issue. Neither have my relatives and it took this wedding to sort of see that. You’d think a lot of them would have more to say but they didn’t and mostly enjoyed his company, no questions asked.
2. It also depends on the guy
Honestly, I cannot stress how much the right partner and a healthy relationship are required for making it work. The understanding that I wouldn’t be around in a completely unfamiliar crowd of people, having to chill with people he hasn’t met in his life for hours yet having no complaints at the end of it, requires a partner who is willing to understand and appreciate your efforts. This is important for everyone, hold onto it.
3. AND it depends on your temperament.
Honestly, I was worried for a while in the beginning about how this would all seem but after I saw him interacting smoothly with everyone, I realized there was no point. I picked a few petty fights about it too, something we all must admit to doing but by the middle of it, you come to understand you cannot make an impression on someone else’s behalf so let them do it themselves. Additionally, I also made sure that I spent a little time with him alone as well so that he was not overwhelmed by it all but hey, it was worth it.
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