All girls want to know what men think about relationships. Do they prefer being single? Do they actually want someone who loves them like a little baby? It’s a maze, and we are all figuring it out. So I wanted to know what men really feel. Here ‘man’ being my boyfriend. Let me describe him for you to understand this better!
Boyfriend here is G. Let’s keep it to that! Bengali boy, studied in the UK, worked in India and now runs a business at the age of 25. Basically the definition of heterosexual male urban-bred millennial boy? Sounds about right! So I asked him the following questions to understand what men think of when it comes to dealing with the hard questions in a relationship!
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Are men and women equal in a relationship?
A: In a relationship, men and women bring different things to the table. On somethings they have to agree upon, but other than that, their roles are not the same. So how does one judge if it is equal or not if the quantities are different?
Do you think men are emotionally weaker than women?
A: I don’t think I was very aware of my emotional side growing up. I see it with my friends as well. We don’t think in an emotional way so yes, we are not taught how to process it as well as women. For us, attachment is very emotional. If we get attached to something, it is very difficult to think of not having it that way!
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Do you think men and women bring different things to a relationship and what are they?
A: Women bring tenderness and care to a relationship. They’re more evolved that way. For men, they bring a sense of security and backing.
Does age matter in a relationship?
A: No, it all depends on wavelength and how you connect with someone!
Does it matter if your partner earns more than you?
A: No
How much does your parents approval matter in a relationship?
A: For me, my parent’s approval accounts for about 60% importance in my head. They are a very integral part of my life and knowing that they like the girl I am with is quite reassuring. However, I do not expect them to get my relationship completely either. I am their child at the end of the day!
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How much does your friends’ approval matter in a relationship?
A: It does matter to a certain extent but then what you choose is completely up to you! They can warn you perhaps but not stop you from the experience.
Does it matter how your partner dresses?
A: I mean it depends on the occasion where a certain outfit is worn but otherwise, no, it doesn’t really matter what she wears.
What is the ideal age to get married?
A: 30-33 years. It’s more on the settled side!
What are the qualities you look for in a wife?
A: Mindfulness and competence. She should be able to assess a situation correctly, which I think is quite attractive. Also, she should be curious to learn about new things! There’s no room for mental stagnation!
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Would you marry someone against your family’s wishes?
A: Yes, I would actually!
Would you consider marrying someone who is divorced?
A: Yes
How important is sex in a relationship?
A: It is important. Both parties should be compatible and satisfied!
Would you consider having a threesome if your partner wants to?
A: I need to be more sexually mature to indulge in something like that. Also what threesome is this? ( ugh typical)
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What are the most important qualities according to you in a good relationship?
A: Compatibility, love/attraction
What is your idea of a romantic date?
A: Candle light dinner with food that I make, wine and chilling together. I also believe that you can make any moment romantic and you don’t need to necessarily spend on extravagant dates!
Is it important for your partner to be in shape/fit?
A: Not super important but like self-aware of their decisions. If I am looking at my health and ensuring that I do not overstep my boundaries then I do expect my partner to do the same.
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Is there a relationship mistake that you have accepted in the past that you regret?
A: I do not stand for lying and cheating but I have accepted it in the past. I do not stand for it anymore!
Do you believe in the concept of soulmates?
A: No, I don’t actually.
Are you willing to share a toothbrush with your partner?
A: Yes
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My conclusion:
Although this is my boyfriend’s personal opinión, I feel like it resonates a lot with what men think about in terms of relationships in the casual dating, millennial generation. They’re the folk who want to be cuddled too but they’re too scared to ask for it. Even though I do agree that a lot more men, now, are more aware about their emotions. There’s more knowledge about mental health, patriarchal conditioning and relationship boundaries. There will always be a few stereotypes that creep into the dynamics.. It’s about how to eliminate them when you see them manifesting in a relationship!
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Also, it’s not that men our age do not want the conventional things in life like a family. It is easy to be convinced with so many fuckbois on dating apps that men do not care about love, emotion, marriage etc but there are men who do. They do think about soulmates and finding that one person so hold on, maybe?
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