Sherlock was a ‘high-functioning sociopath’, but we loved him. Now that was all down to Benedict Cumberbatch’s charm. In real life, people with really high IQs aren’t that charming and are often despised by the rest.
Nobody likes a show-off, but all of us want to be intelligent. For that we take classes; do random online ‘improve your IQ’ tests; and at times, even pop a few pills. At the same time, we try to avoid the company of that know-it-all in our circles. That’s why people with high IQ suffer in relationships. Why you ask? Read on.
They think too much
This is a massive issue. People with higher IQs try to understand everything. For them, just knowing something isn’t enough–they have to understand it completely. Naturally, that can get onto your nerves because as a partner you may not always be on the same page as them, and that can lead to misunderstandings.
More head than heart
People with high IQs analyse most things in life. They take a step back and try to take stock of a situation. It’s a great quality to possess, but it can be overbearing. They will never do anything just for the kicks and that seriously hampers a relationship. Also, people with hyper-intelligence never fake appreciation–instead they get super critical. They don’t do it to hurt people… they do it because they want others to improve. But most of us don’t get it because we tend to instantly vilify the person who finds faults in us.
Loners
Remember how many friends Sherlock had? One! That’s because hyper-intelligent people can be annoying. Their brains work differently and they don’t enjoy useless chit-chat. They don’t take interest in other people’s lives, and hardly care about what happened at someone else’s wedding. To entice them into a conversation, you need to stimulate their mind which can be a tedious task for most. Hence they often end up being loners.
Career over everything
Another roadblock! People with higher IQs dream big, and that can cause a massive stir in a relationship. Your partner needs to be in complete sync with your aspiration because unless they understand it–they will never grasp the obsession that the smart folks have with their career.
Overlooking mistakes
Those with higher IQs often ignore their own flaws. They are biased in their views and dismiss other opinions too quickly. In a relationship, that is an absolute no-no. Disregarding your partner’s opinion is a serious insult which can certainly lead to humungous misunderstandings.
