Women can be really complex, especially when it comes to romance. We’re the queens of mixed signals, and sometimes, it takes riding a turbulent wave (or ten) to introspect and figure out what we want, what we need, and the difference between love and longing. While many of us may crave a relationship, how do we know and make sure that we’re ready for one? Well, the truth is you can’t. You can never really prepare yourself for something as elusive as love. If you manage to do so, you’ll rob yourself of the serendipity and wonder that you may be coveting in the first place. But having said that, there’s one thing you need to decipher for sure.
Are you seeking it only because you’re lonely? If that’s the case, we’d advise you to drop the idea and give yourself some time.
Curious to know why? Here are 5 reasons that should clear the air…
1. When you’re lonely, you’re mostly at a highly vulnerable state. And while that has its charm, too much vulnerability can lead you to make choices in haste. There is no time bomb ticking that will explode in 30 seconds, should you not find a man to date in the given time. So breathe! Get yourself together and wait till you’re in a stronger, more stable state of mind.
2. If you get into a relationship only because you’re lonely, you’ll be willing to make a lot more compromises and adjustments than you otherwise would. While the first 6 months or even year of dating might go well, once you bounce back to to a routine, there are bound to be clashes.
3. Committing to a relationship when you’re lonely, gives you the back seat in the relationship right from the get-go. You’re clearly the needy one, who is or will be emotionally dependant on your partner. While that isn’t the best place to be in for you, it’s unfair to put that burden on your better half as well.
4. Because you are emotionally needy and dependent, should your partner show a slight shift in behaviour, or give you less attention than usual, you could very well begin to have trust issues. As you can imagine, this can be highly unhealthy for your relationship.
5. Anyone will prefer a partner who knows her mind and is sure of her emotions, over someone who is unsure of whether she is actually ready to be in a relationship, or is simply craving it because she’s scared or tired of being alone. Be the woman who is consciously aware about what she brings to the table and what she expects from her partner.
