The honeymoon phase in any relationship doesn’t last forever. This initial temporary phase of elated emotions fades after a point, and that’s when the reality of your relationship actually hits. The level of passion, that craziness, that urge and longing, that intensity… it all settles down after a point of time. But here’s the thing: it’s not a bad thing at all. It’s actually for all the good. Wonder why? Here’s why I feel the end of the honeymoon phase is actually good for a relationship.
1. You actually know what love is
Love in the real world is not easy. It’s always filled with ups and downs, and it’s never a smooth ride. In the honeymoon phase, you actually feel like you are living a dream, a fairytale kind of love. In your mind, you would imagine the rest of your life to be a honeymoon, but that’s not how it actually works in the real world. You actually grow in love once you are out of your honeymoon bubble. You realise love is not going to be easy. Love needs to be mature.
2. Your insecurities are finally out of the window
With time, your insecurities fade away. When things settle down, you get used to each other’s quirks. Also, you understand your partner better. This understanding helps you to part ways with your insecurities. The ‘what if he leaves me’ moments are replaced by ‘ he will never’ sentiment.
3. There is more trust and commitment
Building trust takes time, but once you start trusting your partner things become much better. You become more than a couple–you become teammates. You grasp the idea of being by each other’s side through thick and thin. You still might have niggles amongst yourselves but for the world, you always put up a united front. That happens only when you completely trust your partner.
4. You make peace with the flaws
No one is perfect. No, not even you. Although you might have wished for a flawless Prince Charming, nobody can live up to that billing. Once you make peace with it, it becomes much easier to navigate through life. Initially in a relationship, the flaws of your partner stick out. At times, it gets difficult to deal with them but with time, you start accepting it. You do it because you understand that both of you are different people and you try to complement your partner. If he’s not good at something, you cover for him. If you mess up, he holds the fort.
