We have read and heard people talk about debunking marriage myths. But the truth is that there are expectations and then there are realities. Sometimes you dream a dream and no matter how hard your partner might try to make a reality for you, it all gets lost in the maze called marriage. Since life is about such reality checks and then some more, we shouldn’t stop being grateful for what we have.
We end up focusing so much on what is lost that we forget to count what we’ve gained. This goes for marriages as much as it goes for anything in life, be it friendships, career and opportunities. Love is not in the romantic first six months, or the one-year anniversary, nor by the couple who is having too much sex– at the end of the day, love in the mundane. Here’s listing out 5 common myths every couple should believe to be true:
1. It is not always exciting, but it is always fulfilling
This is not the kind of relationship you would’ve imagined in your school days. Marriage doesn’t feel like bungee jumping, it feels a lot like a long walk in the October weather, hand in hand. It might be your thing or it might not be, but this is a compromise all couples make when settling down. All days are not the same and marriages do come with a lot of responsibility which drain you out initially.
2. Couples who laugh together, actually do end up happier together
On the contrary to how people might think that over-joyous couples will soon face “reality”, if you are enjoying your partners company now, you will enjoy it for a long time to come. You do not have to bank happy and laughable moments and them use them over a span of time. Marriage is all about being present. If your partner makes you laugh and vice-versa, the marriage is working.
3. You DO marry the family and not just the man
You will be able to live your life freely after marriage, it is just you, your partner and your house–all these advice should be falling on deaf ears. No matter whatever said and done, you cannot ignore or not-give-attention to your partner’s family. Same goes for your partner. The more both of you get involved with the family, the smoother the ship of marriage will sail. That is the truth of marriage across the world.
4. You are bound to fight, since you’re dealing with a person in such close proximity
If you are living with someone in such close proximity, sharing bedrooms, planning meals and navigating life around their likes and dislikes–you are bound to fight. These get a little escalated for sure, unlike the similar fights you were having with your siblings or parents. But such is marriage.
5. Love is in the smaller things
Love is not in the surprise gifts or free lunches, it is in taking your dog for his routine vet visit together, in forgetting then remembering to buy groceries and rushing together to buy them before the store shuts. Love is in the mundane and once you find it, you find the pure balance in a relationship.
