Each time I log into Facebook, a friend of mine has changed their relationship status to ‘married.’ Before, it used to be “Woah! Congratulations!” and “Had such a great time at your wedding!” from me. But just how many of those does it take, before one says “What in God’s name is going on?” Everyone just seems to be on this happy journey of love, romance and happily ever afters. I, on the other hand, am still trying to find the odd sock that I knew I left behind at the gym… or was it the laundry bag… ah, nevermind!
I still hang out with my now “officially committed” friends, but not as much as I used to. And on the rare occasions we somehow make it to a get-together, we’re more likely to discuss engagement rings, babies and couples trips, over unsolicited Tinder dates, tipsy sundowners and where to get the best gel nails in town.
I won’t lie, it’s hard not to feel left out when everyone else is celebrating their glorious relationships and I’m getting increasingly anxious and reluctant towards the whole concept of settling down.
Today, I’m talking to the whole lot of singletons like myself out there, who are perturbed by society’s constant questioning of our unmarried status. I know how this phase can seem daunting, but don’t worry I’ve got your back. Here’s what to remember and how to cope when those gloom-ridden thoughts hit hard..
1. You’re still footloose and fancy free. Enjoy your singledom, it’s the best time to go on fun dates, explore and understand just what it is you want or don’t want in a relationship.
2. You can watch and learn. Having close friends that are married gives you a good view and feel of what marriage is like – Right from wedding planning to baby planning and everything in between!
3. You’ll have all the best stories to tell your friends! While she and her hubby argue over the detergent powder, you can tell them about your fun movie date and unexpected hookup!
4. You can take some more time to enjoy the process of courtship or dating. The former, if you have a boyfriend and the latter, if you still want to explore.
5. You have more time for self-care. When you’re single, you tend to spend more time on yourself, without having to shift focus.
