It is not uncommon to get distracted during sex. But if it is affecting your performance and experience, you need to do something to remedy it. From high stress to inconsistent sex drive, there could be many reasons behind getting frequently distracted in bed. But you can address this with a few tips.
If you want to heat things up in the bedroom again, here are some tips to avoid distraction during sex.
5 Tips to avoid getting distracted during sex
1. Start outside the bedroom
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If you want to focus better inside the bedroom, it’s better to start outside. It will be easier to take account of your life outside the bedroom. Are you a serial multitasker? Are you always hustling? Carefully understand your behaviour when it comes to non-sex activities.
If you are used to multitasking outside the bedroom, chances are your mind will be hyper active during sex too. It’s because you have trained your brain to be that way. To avoid getting distracted, avoid multitasking in daily life and try to build better focuson each activity.
2. Understand your body
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Staying present during entails maintaining better connection with your body. Pay attention to different senses and understand your body during sexual intercourse. If you are getting distracted during sex, try to redirect your attention back to the game. The more you feel in tune with your body, the easier it will be to be present.
3. Increase your foreplay time
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Foreplay is just about getting ready mentally, as it is getting in the mood physically. Increasing foreplay can help you focus on what’s coming soon. It will allow your body and mind time to unwind and get turned on. More foreplaywill not only help make the act more enjoyable but also help you stay present in the moment.
4. Don’t expect to be present at all times
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Assuming you will be focused on the act the entire time is a tad unrealistic. Of course, your mind will wander during sex. How you bring it back to the moment matters. Expecting yourself to be present 100% of the time will only sabotage your efforts to focus.
Instead of obsessing over staying present, try to be purposeful in the moment while acknowledging that you will never be perfect.
5. Communicate with your partner
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At times, your lack of ability to focus may stem from not enjoying the act at all. Everyone has different sex drives and things they enjoy in bed. Take efforts to recognise what you enjoy during sex and talk to your partner about it.
Communicating can help you take the edge off during sex and dial down the overthinking. If you bottle up your obsessive thoughts, you will only end up overthinking more, resulting in even more distraction.
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