Relationships are all about trust and love, but there are always other things to consider when you’re with a partner. The sex in a relationship is an important part, and so is how you spend your time with them. However, there are some behaviours which you need to look out for.
If your partner exhibits some of these behaviours, you should take a deeper look at your love, because these can lead to toxic relationships and trauma.
1. Overly controlling behaviour
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Overly controlling behavior and jealousy is a common red flag in many relationships. People that try to control your movements, decisions, or beliefs are more concerned about what they want from you than what is best for you, and that is never a good character trait in a partner!
2. Narcissistic tendencies
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Having a first night of bad sex is not very uncommon, but the way it happens can tell you a lot about the other person. If your partner just cared about themselves and left you high and dry, it means that they have narcissistic tendencies, which might translate into an unhappy relationship. That first night sex is a pretty great indicator of the kind of person you’re with.
3. Any kind of abuse
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Physical, emotional, and mental abuse are undeniable red flags in any relationship. Physical abuse is easier to pick up, but emotional and mental abuse can be just as damaging in the long run. Nobody ever has the right to use you as a scapegoat for their own problems.
4. Violent behaviours
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Someone who demonstrates violence toward you, your loved ones, strangers, or even animals is a serious red flag. It might not be something your partner does often, but if they get violent and angry when inconvenienced or inebriated, it is a serious red flag. It indicates they haven’t developed a healthy way to properly channel their emotions.
5. Codependency
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Your partner being too attached to you and wanting to spend all their time with you might sound good in a romance novel, but in reality it becomes an exercise in emotional labour. Being too clingy in relationships can be a pervasive pattern that causes issues such as emotional exhaustion and increasing mental load. It can lead to an unfulfilling and unhealthy relationship.
There are many different types of toxic behaviours that can show up as red flags. It is important to know about them and read up online. There are a lot of resources that can teach you about red flags in a relationship, and there are some that you would not even consider bad habits!
Have you ever come across any of these red flags? Tell us in the comments below.
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