If you’re Indian, single and above the age of 25, you’re likely a victim of the “Shaadi kab karoge?” question. And if that’s not enough, watching all your friends change their Facebook statuses to ‘Married’ or ‘Committed’ doesn’t help you feel any better. Even if you’re a strong-willed, independent-thinking woman, you may often find that these societal pressures are so deeply ingrained in our systems that, at some point, you may find yourself thinking, “Am I really missing out on something?” or “Is there something wrong with me?” Well, here’s the good news—Marriage is not the benchmark of a life well-lived. In fact, contrary to popular belief, if you’re the only unmarried one in your circle, it could mean a whole lot of positive things too!
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1. You’re Not Ready And You’re Honouring Your True Feelings
If you’re not ready to tie the knot just yet and have no qualms about saying so. Trust us when we say you’re in a good place! It’s easy to give in to social pressure, and just go with other people’s versions of what your life should or should not be like at a certain age. So, if you’re firmly standing your ground and waiting it out until you genuinely find someone worthy of settling down with—You go, girl!
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2. You Understand That Marriage Is More Than Just A Sabyasachi Lehenga
Marriage is a huge, serious commitment! While some of us may be tempted to fulfill our teenage fantasy of dressing as a bride in that heavily-embroidered designer lehenga, you see beyond the glitz and glam of the event, and understand the emotional dedication this relationship requires. At the cost of sounding cynical, more often than not, marriage is no walk in the park and requires work from both partners. Lifestyles may change, priorities may vary and there are several other aspects that come into play—ones that you might not even consider when you’re single. So, it’s good that you are taking the time to get ready for such a vow.
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3. You Won’t Settle For Anything Just Because ‘It’s Time’
“Shaadi ka time ho gaya!” is a concept that’s being rapidly shunned by millennials. And, of course, with good reason. You’re not sitting on a time bomb that’s going to explode if you don’t put a ring on it. Not giving in to pressure that’s all around you is one of the most undervalued life skills that exists; so give yourself a pat on the back! Settling down just because your time is seemingly up is one of the worst things you can do. It’s perfectly fine to wait till you find ‘the one’. On the other hand, to the girls who find love and are truly ready to take the plunge, we see you and respect your decision too!
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4. Weddings Are Expensive And Need Financial Planning
Indian marriages are highly glamorised and extravagant. One of the main reasons behind this is that families use the event to reconnect with long lost friends, family members and to oblige their social network. Add to that the endless rituals, venue, decorations, food, entertainment and the works, and you can imagine just how much you’ll need to spend! If you’re still single, rejoice in the fact that you don’t have to burn a hole in your pocket just yet!
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