Birthing a child out of a wedlock is the toughest and most challenging thing for a woman in our society. We have heard actress Neena Gupta talk about her struggles of raising her daughter Masaba Gupta outside marriage. The latest to open up on being an unmarried single mom is Splitsvilla fame Anmol Chaudhary. In a recent interview, the former reality show contestant shared her story and the turmoil she went through during her pregnancy.
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She told ETimes, “In January 2020, I came to know that I am pregnant. Of course, my first thought was never to keep the child initially considering the mental state I was going through because of my breakup. My friends and councillors told me it would not be wise to keep the baby and my financial situation was also very weak.”
Talking about how she gave up on life and how the baby saved her life, she said, “After my breakup, I was very depressed and didn’t want to live. I always looked for love but the person I loved ditched me. So, I thought this baby can be that love for me and I shall live for the baby.”
Anmol doesn’t blame her family for not being supportive enough and her mother asking her to abort the baby. She continued, “I come from a really conservative family, so I had no guts to inform them but somehow I managed to tell my mother. But my father was not aware. My mother was shaking and asked me to abort the baby. Then I told her I am not asking you but informing that I am pregnant and I am keeping the baby. I know where my mother comes from, so I can’t hate her for not supporting me.”
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She also revealed that her boyfriend was aware of her pregnancy and when he figured he offered to bear the cost of the abortion. Anmol recounts, “So after a week, he messaged me asking what happened to your abortion you didn’t tell me. I was like I am keeping the baby and he thought I was kidding. After a month he realized I was serious. He started abusing me that you can’t keep the baby as his friends scared him saying that she is purposely doing all this and will put a rape charge on you. Unfortunately, girls working in this industry are often judged like that. I told the person directly it is my decision and you can’t force me to abort. So, don’t interfere.”
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“I understood that I was on my own and had to do things myself. Even though he said he wanted to help, I felt those were just words because he was scared that I might reveal his identity…I wanted the best for my baby and then we agreed to co-parent but we failed. But if he wants to connect with our son, I am fine with that. I don’t have a problem,” she concluded.
The society we live in will never refrain from ridiculing women for their choice, and schooling them on morals and ethics. Anmol’s decision, too, had its own cons but she surely is an epitome of a strong woman and a great mom indeed. Kudos to her for embracing motherhood without paying heed to societal norms.
Lead Image Credit: Anmol Chaudhary, Instagram
