2019 has been a year of many discoveries and accomplishments–India launched its first lunar probe, Hima Das bagged five gold medals in a month, and India annexed the Kashmir valley, to name a few. However, amidst such wild transformations, one thing remains utterly stagnant and we’re not surprised that the issue is none other than… female sexuality!
Turns out, ‘female orgasm’ as a keyword search on Google was at it’s all-time high this year and we don’t really know how to feel about it! Should we rejoice about the fact that women orgasming is suddenly a big revelation or lament about people genuinely not knowing this biological process? ‘Female orgasm meaning’ and ‘what is female orgasm’ were some of the related terms searched!
In a country where sex is looked at as a ‘chore’ for married women and a taboo for the rest of the population, it shouldn’t shock us if female orgasms are still considered a myth. Did you know a few states recently removed chapters on sex and reproduction from the course books itself?
So, in case you were still wondering if women CAN orgasm, the answer is: yes, they can! For those wanting to know what an orgasm actually feels like for a woman, this is how it goes. It’s like sitting on a roller coaster that’s going down from the highest peak, like electricity running through our entire body, or our vagina exploding in glee as we see fireworks with our eyes closed while ‘Africa’ by Toto plays in the background. In short, it feels just like how orgasms feel like for men! How hard can it be to understand that?
The worst part is that women themselves are unaware of their bodily needs, let alone men. Seven out of 10 sexually active women haven’t experienced orgasm during sex. Nine out of 10 haven’t ever vocally expressed this to their partners, and eight out of 10 would rather fake it than confront their partners.
While the technicalities of women orgasming are still unclear, most women orgasm faster during oral sex than penetrative. (Lesbian sex was established as far more satisfying for women than hetero sex.) The reason–clitoris! No, it’s not the same thing as the ‘G spot’. Sex is often a means to an end for men, the end being orgasm; whereas women can ‘climax’ multiple times through the process.
Orgasms are also subjective and different women climax differently. So, for the clueless men who don’t know how to and the women too shy to ask, please talk about it! It’s a natural process and both the partners (or more, depending on your kink) should talk about these things and experiment. Maybe, for once, men can take the phrase ‘ladies first’ literally!
