“He told me that he doesn’t like his wife, and they haven’t been getting along for a long time,” a cliche dialogue spoken by committed men, and exposed by Neena Gupta on Instagram, as she warns women not to get involved with married men — ones who shower us with forehead kisses and suck all the sense out, in the bargain!
Neena talks with experience
Neenaji’s Sach Kahu Toh series on Insta is kaafi informative and intriguing. Speaking on different topics, she shares bits and pieces about various experiences of her own. In the latest post, the Shubh Mangal Zyada Savdhaan actress unabashedly talked about an episode she had with a married man, and why she advises others to never fall in love with them.
Further, sharing how an affair of that sort typically goes, she spoke about the beginning — where they lie to you, telling you their relationship with their wives are unfulfilling, leading you to slowly empathise and fall in love with them. She said, “You fall in love with him, he is a married guy. Then you say ‘why don’t you separate?’ but, they say ‘no, no there are kids, I don’t feel like now, let’s see what happens, maybe someday’. So you start meeting secretly and go on holiday, but he finds it tough as he has to lie about his plans.”
She added, “Then you say that you want to do a night stay as well and then you go to a hotel and spend the night. Then you want to spend more nights together and ultimately you want to marry him. You push him to divorce his wife but he says. ‘Wait for some time, I am working on it, it’s not so easy, there is property, there are bank accounts etc etc.” Now you are getting panicky, frustrated and you don’t know what to do. You eventually think about leaving him as you don’t want to get into so many complications. He says FO (f*** off) to you. Then what do you do?”
Neenaji concluded by saying, “Do not get involved in all this, do not fall in love with a married man. I have done this before, I have suffered. That’s why I am telling my friends, you all, try not to do it.”
No happy endings here
A married man making a pass at a single woman no longer shocks the world, and just that speaks volumes for itself. No, we’re not making a generalisation here, and we absolutely believe that good, loyal men still exist. However, having said that, they are a rare find, and with all the evolution in terms of lifestyle and relationships in the modern day–it’s safe (and disheartening) to say that the concept of monogamy is heading speedily towards extinction.
Ask around you, at least one out of three women has been approached by a “family man”, who uses one of the many tricks up his sleeve to convince her he’s genuinely fallen head over heels. Obviously, when they try to pull off something like this, there has to be some groundwork and research that ultimately informs them of how big a risk is involved in this wild adventure that they’re seeking, and so, they mostly start out by trying to evaluate a woman’s psyche. While some put it down to how their wives make them miserable with all the nagging and nitpicking, some might even be audacious enough to reveal that they aren’t having marital problems as such, but simply couldn’t help themselves from being struck by Cupid’s (problematic) arrow. Whatever the route they take, the objective is the same – for you to believe them, feel flattered in some way, and show them a sign of reciprocation.
But ladies, as Neenaji implied, relationships like these rarely (read: almost never) have happy endings. It’s unlikely that your soulmate is someone else’s husband.
