Looking closely at mother-son relationships can tell you a lot about how men in general treat women. It is an easy indicator of behaviour because it is the one woman that any man has to deal with from as long as he can remember. There’s a reason why even in our ways of rebuking men, we’ve come to condition it with how they treat their mothers because clearly, no matter how much you want to deny it, that relationship is super important.
My boyfriend and his mom
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As a result of my current relationship, I was exposed to, once again, to another mother with a millennial, urban-bred boy. The previous time such a situation occurred, I had a different conclusion I came to. ( Basically, my ex had a distant and cold relationship with his mother) This time, however, my boyfriend has a very happy and healthy relationship with the mothership and that’s extremely endearing to see.
As a 25-year-old man, the fact that he still sits with his mom for dinner, asks what’s up with her regularly, cleans and cooks dedicatedly to help her and pesters her simultaneously like any child would, is clearly a sign of a well-bred man. It reflects the values he’s been brought up with as well as the values he cherishes. This is one point of attraction for any woman–a man who knows how to treat his mother right.
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How it impacts me
The reason why I feel that this mother-son relationship is important is because it speaks volumes about personality. Although it is not a real-time guarantee of any behaviour, the signs of it working out are more positive when the relationship at hand is more positive.
There is also the factor of the role in which he sees women. The fact that there is a guy who does not believe in the same gender roles that cripple our society is one that has been systematically taught and I thank his mother for that. These are the women we need today, the ones who’ve made sure our children unlearn toxicity from scratch.
Why all women should analyse their partner’s relationship with their mothers
Like we said, this relationship is one of the first ones we develop and throughout our life, hopefully, is one of the longest. How your partner deals with that is a big sign of how he is going to deal with many other important things in life, how he will treat you in the long-term. It is essential to pick up on the nuances–the phone conversations, the frequency of calling, the proximity–everything. Especially if you’re looking for some clarity for the future!
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