In modern day dating, sex comes first, and love later, if at all. But, this trend has brought with it a new challenge – having to deal with men who aren’t interested in the after, only in what’s between your legs. The moment things get serious, many men will walk out that door. So, how do you know if the guy you’re with is a fuckboy who just wants sex, or if he’s someone you could have something deeper with?
So, before you jump into bed with your next Hinge date, take the time to notice certain behavioural traits and patterns that indicate he is in it for more than just sex.
10 Signs that say he is in it for more than just sex
1. When he shows interest in your life
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Does he want to know how your day was, and where you dream of being five years down the line? If yes, he may be in for the long haul. Instead of hitting you up only at night or when he is home alone, he regularly reaches out to you to know about your whereabouts. He asks questions that indicate he wants to know you better.
It’s very simple—if somebody is into you, they will show it by being interested and invested in you completely.
2. When he treats you with the same respect as everyone else
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If he is the same person around you as he is around others, offering you the same courtesy as other people he cares about, and nothing too extra, you can trust that he is not faking it just to get into your pants. He is actually a well-behaved person who may really be into you.
It also means that he will not love-bomb you in the beginning to get into your pants and show his true colours after sleeping with you. Be extra cautious if he is showering you with love and attention because his intentions may be anything but noble.
3. When he introduces you to his friends and family
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If you’ve met the people he loves and holds dear, he loves you and holds you dear, too! Okay, maybe he doesn’t love you yet, but there is a real possibility he very well could in the near future.
Men who just want sex will never bother factoring you into their lives in any real way. In fact, they will always stave off any possibility of you meeting his family or friends. If he always dodges the topic of introducing you to his family and friends, reconsider dating him.
4. When he wants to develop a friendship
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If he wants sex, he will not bother forming any real connection that resembles a friendship. He will approach you only when he wants to hook up. Forming any relationship, as simple as a friendship, requires real effort. If those efforts are absent, he clearly does not want to do anything with you. But if the case is opposite, he may be into it for more than just sex. He has your back, and he wants you to have his. He wants a real connection with you, not just bumping uglies.
5. When he wants to take you out on real dates
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If he actively initiates asking you out and making plans with you, he may be into you for real. And these date nights won’t always end with sex. Date nights happen not because you asked, but because he wants to take you out and show you a good time. He intends to know you better on these dates. This indicates he is not just in it for sex.
6. When he pays attention to the little things
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When someone pays attention to the little things, it indicates they care about you and think about you. A man who just wants you for sex will never bother remembering the little details about you. For example, your sibling’s name, or that mole on the nape of your neck. He is noticing the details, and remembering it all.
7. When he’s okay just hanging out… like, for real hanging out
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One of the telltale signs about a guy who is just into you for sex is that he will never make plans just ‘to hang out’. His plans will always revolve around bumping uglies. But if he does not want to Netflix and chill but is always down for ‘let’s strip to tanks and shorts, and cook breakfast together’, he may be the one.
8. When he calls to say hi
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Just that… hi. It’s his way of telling you he’s thinking of you! Do not expect random calls from a serial womaniser. He will call you only when he wants to see you and not the other way around. He will not call you in the middle of the day to check on you or ask you how your day is going. If you are dealing with someone like that, do not ignore these signs.
9. When he makes himself available when you want him to
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Perhaps, one of the attractive qualities in a potential partner is his or her willingness to make time for you, even when they don’t have to. You text or call them that you want to see them and they do everything they can to see you. And not just when HE wants to see you. It’s a two way street, you know!
10. When he just wants to spend time with you, regardless of what you do together
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You wanna go shopping? He’s down for that. Beer and pizza on a Saturday afternoon? No problem! Or, just a lazy stroll in the neighbourhood park? He’s up for anything as long as it’s with you! It is one of the greenest flags if a man wants to spend time with you regardless of the place and setting.
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