Every couple wants to believe that they’re wild and experimental in bed. The romantic bits are great but no one likes addressing their sex lives as ‘vanilla’. The first few months of a relationship tend to be great sex wise. However, in the everyday part of a relationship, is it unrealistic to expect the crazy sex as a constant? Here are our two thoughts:
The wild part in the beginning
With sex, many dynamics come into play. When you’re just getting to know someone physically, you’re more likely to be wild. There’s a burning passion, desire and craving for the other person’s body–more than it would be at any later point, whether that’s a good thing or bad. So it is something that is expected during the early days of any relationship.
During this phase, it is likely to feel that your everyday sex life is kicking–which we’re sure it is but the phase changes. The regular part of a relationship takes over—the everyday drives, lunches, dinners etc. The part where the relationship is real. During this time, sex also changes.
The part in the middle
When a relationship becomes an everyday part of your life, it is quite unrealistic to have sex like wild animals. It’s not that you can’t or there is no exception to the rule, however, on a day to day basis, you’re more likely to gravitate towards passion, love and romantic sex. Even if the wild, throwing you off the bed crazy ensues, it’s more like a once-a-week-or-two type of thing. You could not possibly be having mind-numbing sex with multiple orgasms EACH time you have sex in a regular healthy relationship. It’s honestly asking as well as giving too much.
Here we’re talking about a couple who are regularly having sex. Even if you’re doing the rough sex on the regular, it is most likely to become boring if done and repeated too often. That’s how it works for anything–you overdo the crazy and it doesn’t excite you anymore. Of course there will still be moments of passion that ignite the wild side and making sure you have that working more often is something we can all strive for, however the everyday sex will probably not be as wild and crazy when you’re in a dedicated, loving and committed relationship.
The expectations
As a millennial couple, I was worried that relationship sex would be quite conventional, however the outlook is to find a balance in-between the romantic, sweet and crazy sex. It’s quite bizarre to think that each session will turn into a nail-scratching finish, and the problem lies with that expectation. When you transition through a relationship, even if both parties have been wild before, it is not something that can be regularly sustained, I feel. If you can, then I’m speechless how you’re doing it. All others, please let me know if you relate!
PICTURE COURTESY: Dil Dhadakne Do, Giphy
