Great love stories often involve two people finding better halves that make up for all the qualities that they lack. The good girl fancies the bad boy, the timid one falls for the outgoing kind, and the banker falls for the artist. So, it’s no wonder we tend to believe in the theory that opposites really do attract.
Having said that, when these differences translate into everyday life, they become a lot less admirable and “cute”, and even though they’re wonderful in many ways, they can also, undoubtedly, be a pain in the neck. For example, if you’re an extrovert, and have been, or are currently in a relationship with someone who is a complete introvert… you’ll relate to what we’re saying!
In case you don’t, here are seven ways in which opposite personalities dating (in this case, extroverts and introverts) can be quite problematic…
1. They ditch you, socially
Introverts absolutely detest being around too many people at once, and hence, often refuse to attend social events, gatherings, and parties. If you’re the opposite, you’d obviously enjoy these very things, and if your partner is always ditching you, it can get super annoying.
2. They are not as expressive
Most introverts keep their innermost feelings to themselves, which can make it tough to gauge their mood and emotions. Most of the time, this can seem as though they are indifferent towards things that may greatly matter to you, causing you to doubt there genuine interest and affection.
3. They are very passive when it comes to making plans
When it comes to deciding what to do over the weekend, which movie to watch, where to vacation, or what to order at a restaurant–introverts usually take the back seat, and let others take a call. Even if they know their preference in their minds, they may find it hard to gather the will and drive to oppose anything. They rather just go with the flow.
4. You always feel “EXTRA” around them
Since they are the quieter ones, whether it’s you befriending people wherever you go or you being vocal about your wants and needs – anything you do can very well seem OTT in comparison to him.
5. They don’t give you the reaction you expect
Especially during a heated argument, when you want and expect your partner to answer your questions, and address a certain thing, they can appear to be placid and unperturbed by all the commotion. For any extrovert who is always up and active and rearing to go, you know how that can be extremely irritating!
6. They’re highly selective
Even though this might actually be a good thing, introverts are extremely picky about whom they call “friends” and spend time with and that can be annoying to someone who is outgoing and friendly to everyone in general. To top that, the fact that your introvert partner can never seem to fathom how you have so many friends, whom you have to meet and mingle with on the regular, can also get on your nerves at times.
7. They bottle up their anger
An extension to the thought about them concealing their emotions, introverts usually struggle with expressing any anger with their partner and end up keeping everything bottled up. All that pent up frustration, however, does see the light of day, when they can’t take it anymore, and finally explode! While releasing all that tension is good for them, it’s obviously not the most pleasant experience for you.
