In most relationships, it is easy to identify the fault in someone else. Why they said something, how they reacted to a situation, or where they got too personal. However when it comes to a quick self-introspection, we gladly shy away. How could we make a mistake? How could we trigger someone? It’s simply not possible. BUT, in a lot of situations, we’re the problem, but we’re too in our heads to admit it or even analyze it.
Truth #1
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The first truth to embrace as a human being is that we’re all a little messed up. None of us have absolutely perfect qualities. In fact, ‘perfect’ is a myth. We might love grand gestures in a relationship, someone might not like even the hint of it–different outcomes while dealing with the same quality of an individual. Hence, you can be causing a problem for someone, even if you don’t feel ‘as though you did something wrong’..
This is level one of acceptance and empathy.
Truth #2
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The second truth is you can be in the wrong even if you did not intend it.
A lot of us feel that because we did not want to hurt someone, it makes us unaccountable for our actions. This is honestly not how it works. Just because you gave yourself the clean chit, does not mean that another individual (with their own perspective, experience and knowledge) will accept the things you do, in the exact same way that you intended. It is simply impossible for such a transfer of thoughts, emotions and understanding.
Truth #3
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The understanding of where you go wrong only comes from listening and understanding others as well as yourself. When people who know you well–family, friends, boyfriends, relatives etc–tell you why or where you are going wrong, it is very VERY important to actually sit down and listen. You might be dealing with anger, sadness, anxiety or all of it, but remember, you will never grow if you never know. If you choose to dismiss what close people say about you, then, not only are you doing them a mistake, you’re doing it to yourself as well.
This also means that you do not take each and every thing that people say to you. Where to draw the line depends on how much you know yourself. You cannot let others steamroll you, neither can you be ignorant about their feedback. The right place is developing more self-awareness while maintaining your self-respect. It can be a tough balance to strike but only you can strike it.
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