Married women, how often do you get told by your single friends that you have turned boring after your wedding? Every time you cancel a plan and prefer to stay at home? Or while you were getting married, how many times were you advised not to get married? Marriage does bring in a lot of change where you end up devoting more time to your family willingly and that’s absolutely okay. Marriage somehow has been perceived as a boring institution by most single peeps. In fact, there have been surveys stating that life gets duller after two years of marriage. We got in touch with real women who have been married for years to tell us what they feel about it.
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“I’ve been married for a decade and I don’t agree with this statement at all. Post-marriage life gets comfortable and it’s on you and your partner to not make that zone boring. Personally, I’d rather have this comfort zone over anything else: there’s a lot less drama, there’s a lot of trust, and sure, some days you’ll ditch the date nights for pizza in bed, but remind me again how is that boring?!”
– Ainee Nizami, Mumbai
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“If you think life becomes mundane post-marriage, you need to think again. It depends from person to person. Sure, you have to take a lot of responsibility but if your partner truly acts like a partner, it’s quite easy then. I sure am a lucky woman. So, while we have our fair share of ups and downs, fights over silly things, we surely think that tomorrow is a new day and hence move on. After dating for more than a decade and then getting married, we started a new chapter by welcoming our son eight months back. Surely, the boring episodes turned out to be quite exciting and rather exhausting these days.”
– Trisha Chakraborty, Mumbai
“I guess each marriage is a unique one and I can’t speak for others but for me, life definitely became more social and exciting after marriage. It is a sad truth but in Indian society, a certain degree of the deal of validation and acceptance is assured to you when you get married – whether it’s about the rented accommodation options you get or the events you attend, or the conversations you strike up, singles (especially die-hard introverts like I used to be) often get ‘singled’ out of a lot of couple-heavy aspects because of the lack of a significant other. So while that’s something that needs to change, I did get the benefit of it post marriage. While dating, there’s a motivation to keep planning exciting things all the time, when married you don’t have that added pressure. Your friend circles expand, you get a steady travel and party buddy, you get inducted into the exciting world of home building and family planning … definitely far from boring!”
– Madhuparna Dasgupta, Mumbai
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“It’s neither people nor relationships that get boring with years, it’s just that people take their marriages for granted after a few years and once they get used to their married life and the daily routine, they stop putting enough effort as they used to in the initial days of marriage. I believe every marriage has three phases: honeymoon period, adjusting period and settle down period. Once the honeymoon phase is over, the things that once you found so attractive about your partner, start bothering you. You start observing the differences they have in their habits and casual things. When you fill a jar with salt, it gets uneven, and to make it even we shake the jar a little bit. That is what this adjusting stage is all about: great discomforts.”
– Rashmi Pandey, Surat
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“I started living under the same roof with my husband after we legally registered our marriage. We have different schedules and week offs so we hardly could spend time together. There was no ‘let’s make breakfast together’ or 5 pm tea time for us. We cherished the little time we got. After our social marriage, the hustle remained. The lockdown was a boon for us. I felt I’m not interesting enough because most of the time we were staring at our phones. Going out for lunch or dinner was not possible. Thankfully we could test every shade of our character during this time. It’s been a year since I’m married and I feel I have the best roommate. Our schedules are still haywire but we still manage to make the most of the little time we get. I did not have to cut down on my number of friends because I’m married. Also, he doesn’t tag along with me everywhere I go. My life is almost the same as it used to be before I got married, just that I have to make 1 or 2 extra video calls on weekends (extended family stuff you see).”
– Parijat Chakraborty, Pune
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“Boring would be a wrong term to use. You don’t get bored after marriage, you just settle down and get comfortable. Priorities and your outlook towards life changes, which helps make decisions differently. Going out and partying with friends every weekend may not be on the agenda anymore while being at home, sharing a movie night with pizza and beer becomes more comfortable. Some may term it as boring, but there comes a point in life where you choose comfort over the adventurous lifestyle. Finding the best roommate, travel and food partner, and someone you can share your vulnerabilities with is anything but boring!”
– Anannya Chatterjee, Mumbai
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