No relationship is without its fair share of ups and downs. Times are such that people are constantly on the edge and want to prioritise themselves over all else. If your relationship is suffering because of this and you want to restore affection and end any rising unease, we have some suggestions for you. We are listing six helpful tips that can help you strengthen a struggling relationship.
1. Trust until you have reason not to
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Trust plays a big part in any relationship’s success. It is not just infidelity, it is also about promises, efforts, and words. You have to choose to trust your partner unless they have given you a reason to not. If the trust is broken and you still want to be in that relationship, learn to build the trust back up, without mocking your partner.
2. Touch each other more often
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When rebuilding a relationship, it is important to channel the desire you had when it first began. For that both partners need to keep the intimacy and attraction alive. When talking, try and look at each other, when walking try and hold hands, when watching TV try and cuddle. These small gestures will truly help you feel connected with your partner and ignite desire.
3. Address the fact that your relationship is not what dreams are made of and start accepting its reality
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Everybody has an ideal relationship they have thought up in their heads. This relationship is what we have wanted since we were teens and we try to fit all our partners and relationships into that tiny fantasy bubble, disappointing ourselves. Each relationship is different and there is a reason why dreams are meant for a time you are subconscious. Let yourself see your relationship from a fresh perspective and zero past baggage. This will help you let go of certain expectations that you felt were essential but turned out to be just unrealistic.
4. Forget after you choose to forgive
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It is a great step to choose to forgive your partner for whatever mistake they have committed, as long as they are remorseful and apologetic. Obviously, you do not have to forgive a person who doesn’t acknowledge their wrongdoings just because you wish to keep them in your life. Now coming back to forgiveness, it is nothing without your power to forget. Unless you want to remain bitter, you will have to forgive and forget to move on towards a healthier relationship.
5. Don’t say things for the sake of it
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Don’t say flowery words unless you will stand by them even when you’re mad at your partner; do not say hurtful things during fights that you will regret later. This is the golden rule of relationships and the first thing one must learn before entering a serious one. Never
over-promise in relationships, and never be the person who hurts another person for an ego boost (or an upper hand, emotionally).
6. Look at yourself from an outsider’s perspective
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Ask yourself questions when you react– “Is it really me doing this?” or “Do I do this often?” and even “Will I be able to justify this behaviour later?” Looking at yourself from an outsider’s perspective will let you keep your cool and at the same time make you take mature and thoughtful decisions.
These tips don’t just apply to you. They work best when both the people in a relationship exercise them for the betterment of their bond.
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