Pyaar is important but so is a healthy relationship. A lot of us ignore toxic and unhealthy behaviours from our partners in the beginning of the relationship, and this only leads to sadness and guilt later on, and eventually messy break ups!
Here are some red flags that every woman should take into account at the beginning of a new relationship.
1. Lack of trust
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Trust is the stepping stone of any good relationship. If your partner is being suspicious of you in the beginning of the relationship, it is something to be wary of. Your partner does not have control over what you do, and they should not be trying to dictate your movements in any way.
2. Negative comments
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Your partner should never break down your self esteem. If your new partner is saying low-key off putting things about you, your body, your personality, or your other relationships, it might be time to redirect your affections. If you’re respecting your partner, then they should extend the same courtesy.
3. Any kind of abuse
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Abuse is not always only physical. If you’re putting up with physical, mental, or emotional abuse, it is time to leave your partner immediately. We often forgive loved ones for their bad behaviour towards ourselves because of the love we feel, but no good relationship can be built on abuse.
4. Narcissim
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Being involved with someone with a misplaced sense of self-importance and self-obsession is not only tiring and emotionally training, it can also lead to self-confidence issues and feeling neglected. It can cause trauma in the long run, so make your choices carefully.
5. Codependent behaviour
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Does your new SO want to do everything together? Are they not willing to be self-dependent about anything? That might be a sign of a bad relationship. Codependent people push ‘emotional’ labour onto their partners,which might lead to you feeling exhausted, mentally and emotionally.
6. Lack of emotional intelligence
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Emotional intelligence is the ability to perceive and manage emotions. People with a low-level of emotional intelligence are unable to pick up on feelings, which means that they are unable to empathize with their partners. This can lead to unnecessary conflicts or subtle manipulative behaviour from your partner.
Red flags are by no means a way to judge people. People do change and grow in relationships, but when a couple is new, women are prone to accepting toxic traits more easily, leading to an unhappy truth in the future.
Make sure you identify these red flags when you find a new beau, and always put yourself and your happiness before that of someone else! Let’s manifest happy and safe relationships this year!
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