The much-cherished relationship goals that we so often scroll through on social media aren’t always how things are supposed to be. Unless a couple is not working towards a few common couple goals as a team, anything else is over-the-top fake. Most goals and the chase behind them is based on an agenda. If you are grounded in reality and can call out the social media farce, your relationship will last.
Comparison is a trait most commonly found in humans. With easy access to social media, one always finds themselves comparing themselves to other couples and their lives; this can create resentment. Here are some common relationship goals that can actually be toxic and you must look out for AKA avoid:
1. Boasting about never having a fight
Where is the growth and reality of a relationship if a couple is not arguing or fighting over things? If you are keeping things to yourself and not bringing it up with your partner, it will turn into resentment and hate. You cannot expect to start a long and healthy relationship by avoiding arguments and fights. It is part and parcel of life and also the basis of understanding each other better.
2. Not dragging a tiff for more than a few minutes
If you tell don’t take a fight to your bed and sleep on it, are you even real? Couples who stress over resolving fights before going to bed are forcing each other to come to a conclusion they might not feel genuinely towards. This creates a disparity in emotions and understanding.
3. Making your significant other the centre of your world
If you are head-over-heels for your significant other and make them the centre of your universe, you are bound to feel sad often. You cannot prioritise a human over your whole life, including life goals, career, education, and even family. There needs to be a balance and enough space to foster a mutually amicable relationship.
4. Moulding them into the “perfect one”
Are you always trying to correct them, getting them to adopt your habits and shed their own? If you want a person to be just like you, go date your own sibling. There need to be distinctive character traits and personalities even in a couple to be able to thrive individually and personally.
5. Showing yourself off as #couplegoals for the heck of social media
Your relationship can still thrive even if you both don’t adorn each and every single post on each other’s social media accounts. If you just want to post everything to show that you both really love each other’s company and like to do everything together, then you are really playing with yourself and not your audience. You must be able to keep yourself grounded in the reality of your own relationship and not run after #couplegoals on Instagram that are largely funded by brands and only last a jiffy.
6. Always doing things together
Do not involve your partner in everything you do, and you should also be able to draw a line in your interference in their lives. Yes, this is called interference because no one should be privy to everything about you. There are somethings that you should be doing alone, with family and with friends. It is just a good cushioning for when you and your partner have a fallout or when they leave forever.
