Texting is a simple habit, but a complex understanding of someone. A person’s texting habit says a lot about them and more often than not, these habits shine most during relationships.
If your significant other, or someone you’re interested in, is not texting you first, but always ends up responding when you do, then issues are limited to them being egoistic or just shy. But the only core issue is that they are not texting first, then below we have listed out reasons why this is happening:
1. He is shy
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Giving him the benefit of the doubt, let’s just say he’s unsure of how his game is panning out. He is super shy to make the first move even if you both spoke for an hour on the phone the night before. He doesn’t know where to start the conversation from and here’s where you can ease him into a regular cycle of communication.
2. His ego is holding him back
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Sis, men have an ego and that is a truth universally known. He doesn’t want you to believe he is head over heels for you or doesn’t want to feel that he’s being taken for granted if he texts first every single day. He wants to have an upper hand in this relationship and he will do so by seeming distant. This is your cue to not run after him but strike a balance and pull down his walls.
3. The conversations are usually bland
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Sorry to say this, but men also avoid conversations they feel are bland, repetitive, uninteresting, and don’t bring anything new to the table. Time to bring in politics, history, art, culture, and opinion into your conversations. Discuss your work and hobbies passionately and give him the space to do so too. This way the both of you will have a great space to talk about anything you wish to. And the conversations don’t need to be always heavy. You can be cute and silly too sometimes.
4. He is just not the “texting kinds”
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This is a deal-breaker for most people, but if you’re understanding enough, then it is true–not everyone is a texter. They might be on their phones often but that doesn’t mean they chat away to glory with people. These people are also not the kind to spend hours talking over the phone. But they have a great personality and are truly attracted to you and you realise this when you are around them in person. Give it time and maybe you both will agree to meet halfway on this.
5. He is not committed to this equation
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A part of everyone fears commitment. With all the options available, with the added uncertainty of the future, no one wants to make fake promises to people. And him not texting you back is a sign that maybe he’s actually just not that into you.
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