COVID-19 has taught us a lot. From how to wash our hands to proper sanitization, the pandemic has been filled with learning. The lockdown months have also been replete with lessons about my marriage. It’s been quite a challenge for everyone. However, these unprecedented times have taught me the essential ingredients for a healthy marriage. Let’s just say, I have learned more about my marriage in the past few months than I ever imagined.
1. Don’t find faults in their efforts
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Your partner’s not perfect at domestic chores and that’s absolutely okay. I have realised perfection doesn’t matter, efforts do. Do not expect them to do things exactly the way you would. Instead of finding mistakes, appreciate your spouse for stepping up and sharing the load. From cooking to cleaning to dusting, my husband does it all. I am glad my partner is one of those rare men who don’t think household work is a woman’s responsibility alone.
2. The only thing that matters is ‘us’
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Everything else is temporary and will fade with time. The only thing I can hold on to is my partner, through thick and thin. I realised taking care of my partner should be my utmost priority. A healthy relationship needs time and acceptance. The lockdown has helped me reflect on my bond and look past faults, have deeper conversations, and address open-ended questions to establish a better understanding.
3. Don’t build up the tension
My anxiety got worse during the lockdown. The isolation from the outside world, increased work pressure, and dealing with health issues often led to outbursts. I would feel irritated and angry all the time. And I didn’t realise that I started treating my husband as a punching bag. I failed to understand that my partner is also in the same boat and is equally frustrated – the only difference, he’s not showing it. Your partner is also dealing with the lockdown exhaustion, so the least you can do is not attack them and build up the tension.
4. Hardships strengthen your relationship
My moments of vulnerability during the lockdown paid off big time. None of us were prepared for this. Navigating through this together just showed us that together we can get through anything and everything. Challenges only make your relationship stronger.
5. Communicate the right way
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Communication is vital but how you communicate is even more important. Especially in times like these, when anything or everything you say can turn into a big argument. I learned not to lose my calm over petty things, so I pick my battles. This pandemic has been a true test of my patience and I’ve learned that nothing is more important than patience and positivity.
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