It is one thing to be likeable and another to leave a lasting impression. It is those who leave a mark on you in a single meeting whom you feel excited about meeting the next time around.
So what is the difference between people who are nice and people who are irresistibly charming? Well, few and yet many if you look at it from different perspectives because it all starts from the beginning – maybe as a teenager or even a child.
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The thing about irresistibly charming and nuanced people is that they are confident in everything they do and also in themselves. And while it is great to be charming in general, if you have an intention set in your mind about impressing someone and making them fall for you then our tips combined with effortless confidence is the key to your success.
1. Pay attention to the other person
It goes without saying that one has to take keen interest in the other person to make them reciprocate similar feelings. Especially when talking to them or simply listening to what they have to say, one must give their full attention if they want any hope of connecting with the other person. If you look at talk shows, some are super popular while some are just there.
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The sheer difference between them is the host themselves. Those who listen without the intention of responding; those who take the conversation forward and not in the direction that they want; and those who make others comfortable are the ones who always succeed.
2. Be an interesting person
Instead of making your life a walking-talking résumé, give people an insight into your interests. Be the person who did a 10-day ice-cream making course, the person who went fishing and ate their catch, the person who tries multiple sports yet cannot find the one they like, and much more.
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You need to be interesting for others to find you interesting. This way more people will like you and be driven towards you at parties and social settings.
3. Talk about yourself without talking yourself up
This is something that I have been told by several people before: they hate when someone starts talking about themselves and it suddenly turns into an unspoken pissing competition between everyone present.
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Make it a habit to not build yourself unless absolutely necessary. Share your story and let others see if it is worth the hype or not. Don’t go around boasting about yourself and making people fret about having a conversation with a self-consumed person. The best you can do is be an interesting storyteller. Someone who narrates incidents, events and memories with a flair. That way people are going to be hooked to what you’re saying, even if it is all just about you, you, and you.
4. Don’t badmouth other people unnecessarily
It takes courage to be a bigger person and if not, you always have your besties to bitch to about other people. When amongst new people, or the person you’re trying to charm, always mince your words about how you feel about a certain person, even if you don’t like them.
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It is a fact well known that people who badmouth others often are seen as negative and whiny. So steer clear of being labelled the person who has a problem with every single person on earth.
Apart from that, the last valuable advice would be a quote that motivational speaker David Schwartz wrote, “All confidence is acquired, developed. No one is born with confidence. Those people you know who radiate confidence, who have conquered worry, have acquired their confidence, every bit of it.”
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