Break-ups are always hard. There’s a hundred different conversations you have, not just with the guy–but with your BFFs, your colleagues, and even you mom–because you inevitably look drained and puffy-eyed than your usual bhoot self.
Post the break-up comes that long and arduous journey of actually moving on. It’s a challenge– there are good days and bad days. But you know it’s the easy way out rather than waiting for some Rahul, Raj, or Rohan to call and say you were the one. Even if you do move on, in however long, there are always slip ups–like his goddamn Instagram story.
So you click on his name, and suddenly you’re back to week 211 Instagram. What does that spell out? Insta-regret. You can be three years into moving on, but a few pictures can make you feel nostalgic for a time you didn’t really want–what a mindfuck, truly.
But we’re here to help you deal with it! We’ve cracked the code on how to not feel like a fool on a nostalgia trip when BAE-stalking takes over your soul.
1. No, that shirt doesn’t make him look sexier
Sure that shirt makes him look good, but does it really make him look as sexy as you think? The answer is probably no. It’s your mind tricking you into believing he’s gotten hotter while you’re currently a potato, binge-eating your 38th packet of chips. It’s time to calm down and truly understand your worth. You’re golden. You don’t have to look like Priyanka Chopra everyday, and he doesn’t look that dapper except on Instagram. So before you go down that route, be sure to look in the mirror and appreciate the hoor that you are. Even if you think you aren’t, that boy’s not going to fix your problems.
2. Friend or girlfriend, get over it!
Wait, is that a girl in his picture? Why is his hand around her shoulders? I’m sure they’re dating…. Sounds familiar? Well, it’s all of us collectively. Before you start over thinking and stalking the said girl on his profile, it’s time to find your inner zen. Even if she is his new fling, you don’t need to start feeling sorry for yourself. You’re doing the best you can, and that’s what really matters.
It’s not a competition on who moves on faster, and to the more hotter SO–it’s about your well-being despite it. You don’t have to find someone just because there’s a pity party and you’re hosting. Besides, you know you can do better. Believe it sweetie, your Rahul is waiting for you somewhere in the sarson ka khet, don’t you worry!
3. No, he’s not doing better than you
Looks like he’s having more fun after you’ve done the deed? Unfortunately there’s a lot show and tell going on rather than real stuff. Come on, you should know this. There have been a hundred times when you’ve posted something just for the sake of your ‘fans’ to see. Well, same story for him too right?
Please don’t read into it beyond the 10 seconds of Insta stories in front of you, because TBH–there’s so many things left to discover, so many things to do other than sitting and obsessing over who has a better life.
4. No, he hasn’t changed
Ex-bae is putting up deep quotes and here you are melting, thinking that he’s really changed. No, he hasn’t. Even if he has, it’s still not your cue to jump right back into the relationship. There can be a lot of big talk–but there might or might not be much truth behind it. But if the relationship is wrapped and done, you can choose to believe you’re the one who has changed. For the better.
