Movies have ruined our understanding of relationships. We’re filled with expectations even before we’ve made things official. “Why has he not replied to my 3rd text yet?”, “Why can’t he post about me on his social media?” etc etc. We measure love based on beautiful dates and the romantic scenes that Bollywood has peddled to us. Yet, when you actually feel the love, it’s not through these filmi moments. It’s the unexpected, candid and totally unplanned details that will make you smile.
If you’re in a relationship, we’re 100% sure you can vouch for this. How many of these real moments have defined your understanding of love and relationships and how exactly are you tackling your expectations?
1. When they remember the small details
You might be harping about that designer bag you saw last week but when they remember your coffee order and pick it up on the way home, it hits different. Remembering the details makes you feel loved because it shows that they listen to what you have to say.
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2. When they stand up for you, even if they don’t have to
They know you are your own person and that you can very well formulate your own argument. However, sometimes situations do arise where standing up for you is the harder choice, but they do it. For example, if your partner’s friends said something rude to you, if they call them out there instead of letting it slide, chances are you’ve struck gold.
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3. When they communicate openly
Open, honest and clear communication is another very important way of feeling loved. We’ll tell you how. For a person to be able and willing to tell you where exactly they are, why they’re running late or just how it took them 4 hours to respond, is a big deal. Unless you absolutely love that person, you’re probably going to spare the details.
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4. When you can just exist with each other
Many couples do not realize it but when even silences become peaceful, you’ve made it. Being able to just sit in each other’s company, without demanding any conversation or shared activity is a comfort that takes months, years, perhaps even decades to build. If you’ve sat with your partner in the same room/house without feeling the pressure of having to do something, you know you’re loved.
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