Unhealthy insecurities are a real part of relationships. They might be stemming from the fact that your partner hides their relationship status, you’re not on their social media, they “fell out of love” in their previous relationship, they are still friends with their exes, or even because they have an outgoing and flirtatious nature. It is brave to let someone into your personal life and let them explore your vulnerabilities without strict rules. However, the slope gets slipperier when you are in a long-distance relationship.
Distance and physical intimacy are two of the most reassuring factors in a relationship. Both these things get compromised when couples decide to test the waters in the battlefield of modern-day relationships by choosing to stay together while in different cities, countries, or even continents.
Here’s how you can tackle those insecurities and safeguard your relationship:
Assumptions will kill your relationship
Assumption fosters doubt, and doubt fosters scepticism. Your partner can interact with the opposite sex and still not be flirting or cheating on you! The trick is simple here, you have to tell yourself that the only thing you will actually respond to is proof. If there is anything to assume then let yourself assume that everything is fine and your partner is faithful, till they break your trust.
Don’t wait for them to fuck up
You have to trust them till they break it, but it doesn’t mean you wait for them to reveal their “true identity”. To think that they are going behind your back, but patiently waiting is going to slowly kill your relationship. You might not realise it, but it makes you snappy, irritable and less supportive towards your partner.
Rather than snooping around, be upfront
Stalking in today’s day and age is extremely easy and common. You can get to know who’s picture your partner liked, who they added on their Facebook or Instagram, who they are hanging out with, whose post they are commenting on… Finding a needle in this haystack will leave you anxious and exhausted. Rather, just ask them upfront what you feel about their relationship with someone.
Although love experts would say that you shouldn’t ask them too often because that would turn them off. But what is your partner even doing in your life if they cannot help you feel secure and are easily put off by your constant need for reassurance?
