Girls, it’s bad enough that society teaches young men that they run the universe. But, if your man is unable to give you little glimpses of heaven when you make love; rather, he enables a quiver that makes you bite your lip when he’s gone–please let him know. There are too many women out there who refrain from speaking the truth, each time a man asks: “Did you cum?”… “Was it good?”.
Well, we understand that even if you were nowhere close to climaxing, you might pretend like he rocked your world–sometimes to avoid awkwardness, sometimes to not break his heart, and sometimes… well, to not hurt his ego! But here’s the deal: “fake it till you make it” is a theory that cannot, and should not, be applied when it comes to sex. If anything at all, faking the big ‘O’ will only take away from the realness of your relationship, leading you to an unfulfilling sex-life and an eventual heartbreak – whether you acknowledge it or not.
If you’ve been “oohing” and “aahing” in bed, just to ignite your partner’s masculinity, it’s time you stop. Not convinced yet? Here are three legit reasons that might change your mind…
1. You don’t mean to, but end up deceiving bae
Every time you fake it, by default, you put your relationship at risk. You may think that you’re being nice and a good lover by sparing his feelings by pretending to orgasm, but what you’re really doing is lying to him. Trust us, if he’s a man of the world, it won’t be long before he realizes that you’re deceiving him (most men can tell, it’s true!) and will be more hurt with that discovery.
2. Each time you fake it, you lose another shot at a bomb sex life!
Do you really want to live your life faking ultimate satisfaction when the opposite isn’t really that hard to achieve? When you lie to your guy, you give his confidence a boost, making him think and believe that he’s got all the right moves and there’s really no need to work hard in bed.
But, if you let him know, he’ll probably feel a little embarrassed–but will do his research and come back bigger and better… literally! There is so much pressure on women to climax, because admit it or not–most of us still think that’s a way of pleasuring our men. Let’s change the game and focus on pleasuring ourselves, shall we?
3. It’s not a challenge, it’s an experience
Faking an orgasm is unhealthy for your relationship, because it turns the whole episode into somewhat of a challenge with orgasming being your goal. If you’re so desperate and focused on whether or not you cum, it makes the whole process mechanical, with little chances of you enjoying the whole experience. The best orgasms are when your mind is stress free and at rest. Don’t let lovemaking become a task!
