Love can be a tricky thing when you get too comfortable with your partner. You don’t fall out of love or forget your partner’s worth, you just lose the initial thrill of attraction and bonding. This happens when you fall into a routine and stay there, because truth be told–it becomes convenient.
If you have been feeling distant from your partner and cannot understand why, then think of your relationship as a garden. While great, grand gestures are beautiful and romantic, the daily tender, love and care is what keeps the plants healthy, happy, and alive. Here are some small ways you can revive the flame with your partner this month:
1. Compliment without a reason
Look at them a little longer than usual, scan them from head to toe and then just blurt it out like you couldn’t control it. Tell them how delicious they look, how beautiful their style is, how great their hair feel, and just how much you appreciate them loving you.
2. Cuddle but no sex
This is the intimacy and not the lust we want in our daily lives. Cuddling is a no-brainer and requires zero effort. This will make you feel more connected and in-sync with your partner. The no-sex rule will help you both stay in the moment and have conversations instead of jumping to sex.
3. Try to have at least an hour in the day without screen time
It is easy to turn to your phone, TV and laptop when you feel ignored or bored by your partner while still being in their presence. But what happens when you don’t have access to any of that? You will have to communicate, you will have to talk, and you will have to learn to enjoy each other’s company. So try and keep the technology away from your relationship every day for an hour till it becomes a habit where you both despise your phones when around each other.
4. Meet their family
This is one thing every partner appreciates–their significant other making an effort with their family. Plan consecutive double dates with each set of parents and spend time with them. This will strengthen your relationship at a level you didn’t even know of.
5. Watch a TV show together
When you start watching a show with bae, you instantly form a bond over it. You both discuss it together, wait for them to make time to watch it together and so on. Watching a show has more benefits than increasing its TRP.
6. Exercise together
Hit the gym together or take that yoga class together, or how about swimming? Exercising together adds to the intimacy you share with your partner and in no time you both will be syncing your exercise days to just spend that productive hour together.
7. Change the location to a hotel room or Airbnb
Switching things up in a relationship is essential to break the monotony and get the required privacy you need to build on the intimacy. Booking a hotel room or an Airbnb for the night will spice things up in the bedroom and give you something to look forward to.
8. Work on an issue that you feel keeps cropping up between you two
Do not wait for a fight to crop up again. If you know something has been a bone of contention in your relationship for a long time, just sit this one down and discuss it. Find the root cause and take out time to solve it for the sake of this relationship.
9. Plan a double date with a friend and their boo
It is proven that spending one-on-one time with boo is not as exciting, thrilling and helpful as spending time with another couple. You will feel closer and more engaged to each other when you finally go on that double date, so try this one out for sure.
10. Cook together
This is not only going to end up in a good meal, but this will also help you understand each other’s dominant sides. When you know more, you tend to exert yourself more in that domain. So this is one way to check waters.
11. Wear something of theirs
Take something of theirs with you and leave something of yours with them. Wear their T-shirt and give them a bracelet. It is comforting to know that you have them by your side through a rough day and vice versa.
12. Spend the night apart: same house, different beds
The want to be together when you consciously choose to be apart is something that you will thank us later for. This will not only drive you to each other but also increase the intimacy under the sheets. Try sleeping in different beds not just to awaken the sexual drive, but also for much needed space. This will only make you appreciate the time spent together more.
13. Walk down the memory lane
Find old pictures, visit older dating spots, talk about the first few dates you went on and just reminisce about the times spent together. A long time might have passed since you spoke about such things and it will give you much more things to talk about.
