Valentine’s Day is around the corner and the day is supposed to be all about love, but sometimes, it just highlights the cracks in a relationship. If you’re feeling more anxious than excited about February 14, know there’s something fishy.
Whether it’s ghosting plans or responding with dry texts, these are just some signs that your partner is losing interest, and ignoring them won’t make things better. So, if someone pointing out the problems is what you need, we’ll do it for you. But first, what are signs of a healthy relationship?
6 Signs Of A Healthy Relationship
Before we dive into what signs prove that your partner is not that into you, here are six major signs that you are in a healthy and growing relationship.
1. You can be yourself
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You know that feeling when you can say the most unhinged things without the fear of being judged? That’s the kind of comfort a healthy relationship brings.
If you can be your weird, goofy, oversharing self around your partner, whether that means ugly laughing at memes or confessing your deepest insecurities—that’s a green flag. A good partner loves you for you, not some filtered, polished version of yourself.
2. Communication isn’t a battle
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When you’re in a healthy relationship, you don’t have to decode vague texts or sit around and wonder, ‘Are they mad at me?’ If something’s wrong, you both talk about it, no passive-aggressive social posts and no weird silent treatment.
You feel heardwhen you express your feelings and even when you disagree, it’s not an all-out war. A partner who values open communication will never make you feel like you’re too much for wanting clarity.
3. They put in effort
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Efforts are everything. It’s in the little things, be it texting you good luck before your big presentation, remembering how you take your coffee, or just checking in on your mental health. A healthy relationship isn’t one-sided; both partners need to make an effort to show love in ways that matter.
4. You trust each other
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Let’s be honest, trust issues can make any relationship feel like a full-time job. But in a healthy dynamic, you don’t have to stalk their Instagram likes or overanalyse every text. You just know they’ve got your back.
There’s no weird gut feeling telling you something’s off, and you don’t have to beg for reassurance every other day. When trust comes naturally, things automatically work better!
5. You understand the concept of space
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A good relationship adds to your life; it doesn’t take over your complete existence. You both have your hobbies, friendships, and goals outside of each other and when both partners understand this, it’s what makes things work!
A healthy partner won’t guilt-trip you for wanting a night out with friends or push their entire world onto you. The idea is to enjoy together, but also not ave a problem when they enjoy without you.
6. It feels like a safe space
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Sure, butterflies are cute, but a healthy relationship isn’t about constantly chasing highs and avoiding lows. It’s about feeling safe, respected, and emotionally secure. If your relationship feels like a never-ending cycle of drama, uncertainty, or emotional exhaustion, that’s not love.
How many can you tick here?
10 Signs Your Partner Is Not Into You & Is Losing Interest
Now that you know what makes a relationship healthy, here are 10 relationship warning signs that’ll tell you your partner is not that into you. Why wait for Valentine’s Day to get your heart broken?
1. Takes time to respond
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If your partner takes ages to reply and when he or she does reply, it’s usually with cold texts, run! The first warning sign of disinterest is taking time to respond. Sure, they can be busy sometimes, but if this is an everyday problem, your partner has fallen out of love.
A person who truly likes you and cares for you won’t leave you hanging for a response. No, this does not mean they need to reply instantly, it just means that they need to respect you and your texts.
2. Doesn’t pay attention
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If your partner seems disinterested when you talk or is scrolling through their phone during a serious conversation, they are clearly not into you. In a healthy relationship, your partner will value you and listen to you calmly, and remember things when the time comes. Like all those hints you gave for Valentine’s Day gifts but they get a bouquet or something low-key delivered online? Well…
So, if you constantly notice your partner being zoned out during conversations, or be rather interested in other things, know it’s a sign.
3. Ditches plans with you
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It is one thing to be a homebody and not want to step out, however, if you constantly notice that your partner is having fun with friends and colleagues but the moment you ask them out, they have a million excuses to ditch your plan, they might have lost interest already.
It’s a classic case of how they don’t want to be with you, but be with you – If you get it, you get it! It’s a major red flag and you should not ignore!
4. Hesitant to talk about the future
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Have you noticed your partner getting a little uncomfortable when you start talking about the future of your relationship? If yes, then commitment probably freaks them out. In addition, if your partner avoids the topic by telling you to live in the moment, you should leave this relationship as soon as possible because it is quite possible that the relationship doesn’t have a future, after all!
5. They keep the relationship a secret
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A person who genuinely likes and respects you would not hesitate to show you off to the world and hide that they are in a relationship with you. Rather, they’ll have you meet their friends, colleagues and acquaintances and will post you on their socials. We aren’t saying it’s the only important thing, but it is a part of things!
However, if it’s the opposite and they refuse to make the relationship public, they aren’t that into you and should reconsider the relationship.
6. Fails to make you feel special
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Do you remember the last time you were surprised with flowers, a gift or even a hug to tell you they’re proud of you or how much they love you? If it’s hard to remember, it was probably done ages ago, or even worse, only at the beginning of your relationship!
A partner who loves you will make sure you feel special and it doesn’t have to be grand gestures but small things that will matter to you. A hearty good morning message or a surprise visit, could be just about anything.
7. They don’t respect you
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If your partner is disrespectful, there can’t be a more blatant sign that they aren’t into you. If they scrutinise your actions, look for mistakes and justify their behaviour by making it look like they want to make you a better person, well, these are just some signs!
If they tend to always disregard your opinion and disrespect you in front of others and when you confront them, they throw the same excuse of ‘learn to take jokes on you’, it isn’t okay. If this is the case, it’s time to end the relationship right now!
8. Body language matters
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Does your partner avoid eye contact while having a conversation? Or have you seen him constantly glaring at his watch when he talks to you or is on a date with you? These are clear signs of disinterest and your partner is not that into you.
It’s hard to accept but it’s better to break off this relationship rather than think of yourself as someone who is unlovable. We don’t want that energy around Valentine’s Day, do we?
9. The ‘no touching my phone’ rule
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If your partner keeps their phone out of your reach like it’s some kind of sacred object, you know where this is going. If you even try to peek at the screen and they quickly move away, are extremely protective about it that they even carry it to the shower, you gotta let it go!
If you’ve been together for a while but are still clueless about their phone’s password, and just feel like you have no access to it, you’ve gotta either have a conversation or take it as a sign.
10. The relationship is taking a toll on you
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When you’re with someone who genuinely cares about you, it feels like they lift you. They cherish you and encourage you to be the best version of yourself. However, a one-sided relationship is draining. If you’re the one constantly putting in all the effort, always trying to keep the peace or make things work, it can leave you feeling empty.
Your partner’s lack of interest or respect can mess with your confidence and make you question your worth. And we don’t want that, do we?
How To Take Control When You Notice Your Partner’s Disinterest
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• Before jumping to conclusions, give yourself a moment to breathe. Are you seeing things clearly, or are your insecurities taking over? Sometimes, we overthink things when we’re feeling vulnerable. So, take a step back, reflect on the situation, and be honest to yourself.
• If something feels weird, talk it out. Don’t make it a huge confrontation, but just casually bring it up, you can say ‘Hey, I’ve been feeling a little distant lately, is everything okay?’ and you’d be surprised to see how much clarity can come from just having an open conversation, no drama, no accusations, just checking in.
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• If you notice that you’re the one who is constantly reaching out, making plans, or trying to keep the connection alive, maybe it’s time to stop. Honestly, it’s exhausting. If they’re not showing the same interest, give them space. Don’t chase someone who’s not matching your vibe.
• When things start to feel one-sided, it’s easy to lose yourself in the relationship. But remember to prioritise yourself! Get back to doing the things that make you feel good, whether it’s hanging with friends, working on your goals, or just spending time alone. Keep your self-worth intact and remember, you’re amazing whether someone else sees it or not.
• If the disinterest is starting to mess with your head, set some boundaries. Whether it’s taking a little space from them or being clear about what you need from the relationship, setting boundaries is a way to protect your peace.
• At the end of the day, you’ve got to ask yourself, ‘Is this relationship bringing me joy, or am I just holding on out of habit?’ If it’s starting to feel more like a weight than a partnership, it might be time to walk away.
You deserve the best and if your relationship isn’t making you feel loved, what’s even the point of it, right?
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