First of all, if your guy is emotionally unavailable, it doesn’t necessarily mean he’s a bad guy or a complete jerk. In fact, he may be the opposite of that. When a person isn’t willing to invest in you emotionally, do investigate the reason for the distant behaviour. It could be a previous relationship that went bad, it could be because he’s afraid of commitment or sometimes he could fear heartbreak, which may keep him from getting into a serious relationship.
However, while a little empathy is always good, it’s also important to safeguard your own emotions and recognise when you need to take a step back. Even though he may seem like everything you ever wanted, sometimes, being involved with a man who runs away from intimacy can lead you to a lot of heartache. Wondering how to tell if he’s emotionally invested or not? Here are 10 signs to watch out for…
1. He avoids talking about the relationship and is clearly anxious when you talk about the future.
2. He talks about how much he values his independence and keeps stressing on the fact that he enjoys his freedom.
3. He won’t contact you every day and has you confused with all the mixed signals.
4. He avoids physical closeness and even though you’ll have sex, he doesn’t make love to you. Yes ladies, there’s a big difference!
5. He doesn’t show too much interest when you talk about your family or your day at work. He’s there, but only on a superficial level.
6. He won’t upload photos of the two of you and isn’t too keen on you doing it either. He might shrug it off by saying he likes to stay away from social media and doesn’t think it’s necessary.
7. His boy gang has no clue about your existence or knows you vaguely as the girl he sometimes chills with. Nothing more nothing less.
8. He is more than okay to talk about other women he fancies in your presence and laughs it off when you get irritated by it.
9. He hates to talk to you over the phone and is always ever ready to hang up. He misses most of your calls and doesn’t call back.
