There’s a loneliness epidemic engulfing major cities around the world. It’s become such a problem in Berlin that Chancellor Angela Merkel and members of her party are contemplating appointing a Commissioner for loneliness in the city since loneliness can afflict anyone–rich or poor, young or old.
In Japan, the situation has gotten so bad that there is a term for people who die alone and whose bodies lie undiscovered for long periods of time–Kodokushi. The extent of the loneliness crisis around the world is not fully known but as can be seen with just Germany and Japan, people are getting more and more isolated.
Have you ever found yourself feeling disconnected from the world? Have you found yourself sitting in a room full of people only to feel completely alone? You could be experiencing loneliness.
But we shouldn’t confuse loneliness with being alone. Many times, I love eating alone at a restaurant while reading a book. It makes me feel happy and content. Being alone doesn’t necessarily lead to loneliness. But often, being lonely can lead you to isolate yourself from people.
Besides therapy, how can you deal with loneliness?
Remind yourself that you are okay
Whenever you’re feeling particularly lonely and you start hearing that voice in your head question everything from your job to your self worth, take a step back. Look around you. Nothing is actually falling apart.
Remind yourself that at that very moment, you are okay. And that life is just a series of moments. If you’re okay right now, you’ll most likely be okay later as well. Take baby steps and you will slowly begin to understand that many of your doubts stem from wayward thoughts.
Use the time alone to focus on yourself
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Self care was one of the biggest wellness trends of the last decade. And it was so for a reason. Instead of focusing on doubts and fears when you are alone and are feeling lonely, try to use that time to focus on yourself.
Cook yourself a nice meal (or order in), wear your comfiest pajamas, and watch your favourite show. Savour each bite of the food you don’t have to share with anyone, enjoy not needing to make conversation, and just live in the moment.
There is nothing like being alone and enjoying your own company.
Of course, loneliness is not something to be taken lightly. If you feel like you can no longer handle it on your own, that’s okay. Go see a professional. Therapy is a big part of self care too. Loneliness should not be something to be ashamed of.
