There are a lot of queer people out there who are fighting to be respected and acknowledged. So many times, young people from the LGBTQIA+ community do not get the opportunity to receive good relationship advice, which can change the way we look at other people, especially when we’re finding ourselves.
Some people from the queer community share the best relationship and dating advice they’ve recieved over the course of their lives and we’re noting these down.
1. Don’t expect a relationship
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“Don’t go in with the expectation of a relationship. Go in expecting to get to know someone. It’s a mistake I made repeatedly early on. When you go into a relationship expecting to find a partner or love, you often forget to cherish the needs and desires of the person in front of you.”
2. The numbers are important
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“A relationship is not 50-50. It’s about giving your 100%. If you go into a relationship giving only 50% then you’re not doing your best, and the same goes for your partner. Think about a relationship in terms of both of you giving your 100%. That is how you will keep it alive.”
3. Don’t settle for mediocre
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“Don’t settle for someone who is dating just so that they can be ‘not alone’. Look for someone who genuinely wants you. It is easy for young queer people to fall for anyone who is available. Don’t do that. If you think being lonely when you’re alone is bad, feeling lonely while in a relationship is much much worse.”
4. Be who you are
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“Be who you are. Don’t try to be someone you are not. You don’t like dance clubs? Don’t go. Just because you are gay doesn’t mean you have to conform to stereotypes. Don’t play into what society says ‘gay’ is supposed to be. Some of us like sports. Some of us watch serials. Some of us are ultra masculine. Some of us are ultra feminine. We are more diverse than what social media portrays.”
5. Don’t be unrealistic
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“There is no one that will fit that unachievable idea of perfection in your head. We’re all people and fallible. If you find someone you connect with on some level that is trustworthy, reliable, loving, and cares for you, give them a chance.”
What is the best relationship advice you’ve ever received? Is there anything that stuck with you? Tell us in the comments below!
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