We’ve often heard advice on how to tackle a situation wherein the sex is great, but the guy isn’t. Now, let’s talk about the reverse. Just as great sex with a crappy person can prolong your relationship only for so long before it meets its doom, if you’re having terrible sex with a good person, that too can be a major cause of distress.
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Recognising that intimacy can deepen and become more satisfying is an essential ingredient in solving your sex dilemma. Now, the first step to resolve the problem is to be sure there is one. What is bad sex? What confirms whether you’re actually experiencing it or are simply overthinking? Today, we’re helping you with just that.
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If you are trying to figure out whether the sex you’re having actually sucks or if it’s all mind over matter, here are five clear signs that prove the former to be true. Be honest with yourself!
1. The Sex Ends Once He Orgasms
If you’re sure that once your man climaxes, that’s the end of the session—whether you’ve orgasmed or not—you’re definitely far from having good sex. In order for it to be good, he needs to be more attentive to your bodily needs and ensure (or at least try) that you finish too.
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2. There’s No Foreplay
Sex doesn’t usually feel completely satisfying unless there’s a little (or a lot of) foreplay. It should not feel like a chore, and no one enjoys just skipping the intro and jumping right to the main part. There’s got to be a little bit of a build up.
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3. It Seems Like A Duty
If sex seems like a duty that you need to fulfil, you’re obviously doing it wrong. Both individuals need to be equally interested and enthusiastic, only then will there be fulfilment and pleasure. If either one or both partners feel like it’s something they are compelled to do and, hence, need to get it over with—that definitely can’t be classified as ‘good sex’.
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4. You’re Doing All The Work
If at the thought of sex, you know that you’re in for a whole lot of work—riding him, going down on him and so on—while your partner just lies there and enjoys all of it… that’s no fun now, is it?
5. He’s Critical Of You Or Your ‘Performance’
If your partner is always pointing out his dislike of the way you’re doing something or the way you look, it’s bound to make you feel conscious. During sex, the freer you are and the less uninhibited you are, the better it is—obviously!
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