There are no shortcuts to overcoming heartache. However, there are definitely things you can do that can help make this process a little less painful. Life doesn’t stop for anybody, and if there’s one thing all winners in life agree upon, it’s that the show must always go on.
Here are 5 things you can do to cope and recover from the blow…
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1. Invest Time In Human Connection
It is extremely common for people to feel the need to disassociate themselves from friends and family for a while after a break up. While solitude does compel us to introspect and come up with answers, human connection has time and again proven to be the best antidote. One of the first things we recommend you do after a breakup is to get in touch with an old friend—someone who knows you well and understands your soul. It is incredible how powerful nostalgia is, and recounting those good old days will almost always bring a smile to your face.
It also reinforces the fact that nothing is permanent, and good times will come knocking at your door again. Believe us, human connection is an ideal way to get over any phase of dejection. Share stories, share pain, share joy. Everything becomes easier to deal with once you realise that most people have had similar experiences and have found a way to bounce back.
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2. Be Mindful Of Whom You Feel Empowered Around
Friends can sometimes be wildly complicated. Some of your best buddies may also happen to be those who might be most disapproving of your choices and decisions. While it is extremely important to have friends who are critical of you, it is also prudent to know which friend to go to in certain situations.
So, after a significant break up, be mindful of whom you open up to. Think about who helps you feel empowered, strong and valued, and spend your time only around those people. It is these people who will drag you to your beloved hangout spots and coax the happiness out of you when you feel lost in life. Nothing will lift your spirits like a friend who recognises the gem that you are, and is generous with love and affection.
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3. Facilitate Endorphin Release
If people, stories and memories don’t work, endorphins always do! Not once has anyone completed a workout and then felt extremely sad. After a break up, a good workout does three invaluable things to you that nothing else can. First, an arduous workout will fill you with a tiny sense of accomplishment that will make you feel good. Second, a strenuous workout acts as an ideal distraction and will help you take your mind off your break up. Last, the endorphins our body produces after exercise trigger a positive feeling and elevate our mood.
In case you absolutely can’t get yourself to work out, there are other ways to facilitate endorphin release—eat dark chocolate, shut your door, turn on the music and dance like you’ve never danced before. Create art or even try your hand at a new recipe!
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4. Don’t Listen To Arijit Singh (Or Sad, Miserable Songs)
Of all the things that influence a person on a subconscious level, nothing has as significant an impact as music. Music tends to punctuate our lives more profoundly than any other form of art. Post a big break up, while it is beneficial to listen to uplifting music, it is equally important to stay away from sad music which is bound to bring back bad memories. It could be from your favorite singer but if you know that a certain song has a pathos touch, staying away from it will be the best thing for you given the situation. Find songs that instill a sense of strength and empowerment in you. Identify artists that dish out happy vibes and create new, positive playlists.
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5. When Nothing Is Great Outside, Turn Inside
Breakups are hard. But, ultimately, when you actually think about the larger picture, you slowly begin to realize just how transient life is. Having a robust spiritual anchor in your life is likely to play a huge part in helping you maintain your sanity. After a big break up especially, it’s more valuable to reach out to your spiritual self and gain perspective. While meditation, yoga or spiritual YouTube videos can help you understand the intricacies of your own mind, another underrated method to discover who you truly are and what you truly desire is to journal your thoughts. It puts things into perspective and is a great way to help you introspect and manifest the life you want to live.
You see, break ups are an inevitable part of life and although they may be undeniably painful, we must not allow them to take over our entire existence. Hang in there, ladies… The night is always darkest just before dawn!
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