We all learn from our mistakes. In relationships especially, there is plenty to understand about our own behaviour. Sometimes we are the culprits, even if we deny it with all our might. When you do realize, it’s too late to fix it. In the fight with yourself, you’ll realize you let the good one go–intentionally or not, but mostly every girl will have one name in mind when they read this. That’s the weird universality of this!
The one that got away
Let’s get one thing clear before we deep-dive into this–this whole situation has NOTHING to do with the boy itself. Or girl for that matter, or anyone. It’s everything to do with you. The reasons pertaining to why you did not date or get with said person could be multiple–them coming into your life at the wrong time, you taking time to figure yourself out, said person/you were dating someone else, they’re best friends with your current partner, you didn’t have the courage, the fear of rejection–we could go on here. However, the fact remains, we have spent a considerable time thinking he was the one. That might not necessarily be true, but we’ve thought about it.
The regret bit of it
You’ve seen the compatibility first hand, you know the dynamics…naturally you’re wondering if they were the ‘’the one’’. So much so, a lot of us will enter a stage of regret about it. We’ve all heard Katy Perry’s anthem, a thousand unfinished love stories and what not–all of which contributes to the internal burden we carry about the imagined romantic relationships not working out. ESPECIALLY, when our other romantic relationships are on the verge of collapse.
Why this whole thing is a myth!
Most often, this perceived happiness is a figment of our imagination. We feel like they would’ve been the one based on the fact that we weren’t ever with them. It’s all rosy and happy. There’s no guarantee that if things had worked out, it would’ve translated to the same amount of ‘perfectness’. Hence, having that regret is totally pointless–it’s an added stress you don’t need in your life. So even if you have someone you can name at the drop of a hat, beware, it’s not real. It’s alright to keep it as a transitory thought at the back of your head but nothing that makes you feel bad about yourself and the reasons you chose not to be with a particular person.
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