If there is one thing people can really do is take their sexual satisfaction in their own hands. It has been discussed endlessly how sexual frustration is manifested in other aspects of your life. Your anxiety, habits, and relationships can lead to unsatisfying sexual experiences. Sexual drive varies from person to person and is rarely discussed in a healthy way in relationships. In an attempt to always please the other person, you leave out the part where you have to put yourself first. So, in today’s lesson on sex education, let’s talk about ourselves through the purview of sex and sexual desires:
Libido
Essentially understood as an individual’s sex drive, libido varies from person to person. Those who have been gifted with an unmatched sex drive boast about it to the world, others with a lower sex drive fake it. It is much like “Hey! I was born with it,” but the fun part about it is that you can try to up your libido with a few natural methods. Few of them being: manage anxiety, work on your intimacy level with your partner, focus on foreplay, sleep well, eat a nutritious diet, exercise regularly, maintain a healthy weight, quit smoking, and try sex therapy–amongst other things.
Lust
The strong sexual desire you feel towards someone, and often confused for love, is called lust. Almost every person has felt this multiple times throughout their lives. Lust is great and comes with lesser baggage than love. That is if you can classify them into separate categories. How can you tell the difference between lust and love? Well, in lust there is heat but no stability, it is all about the body and no emotions, the lack of intimacy is pretty evident, and feelings are definitely conditional. But there is no doubt that lust leads to great sex unless someone develops feeling which is only one-sided… oops!
Lubricant
Let us begin by telling you that not all vaginas are a tap filled with greasy lubes that will start flowing once they see a penis. Men need to really consider foreplay as a part of sex to get a woman wet enough for minimum torrid friction. Your woman might not be telling you this, because she is ashamed she did not get wet enough even though she feels super horny. Some women naturally do not get wet and need artificial lubricants to do that job for them. Some daring couples make things work with spit or that coconut oil kept on the bathroom rack, but honey, they don’t sell lubes in the market so that you would end up with infection as a byproduct of your experiments. So do not shy away from buying a bottle for yourself, the next time you realise you need it.
