Being emotionally abused in a relationship is a serious thing–and yet, it is hardly ever talked about. Physical abuse is visible, but emotional abuse can be difficult to recognize. That said, there are a few signs that we often ignore–even if, unintentionally. As a result, we bear its brunt later. It can lead to chronic stress, depression, anxiety, and trauma–and all this in a relationship that is supposed to lovingly nurture us.
So, if you spot these red flags in your relationship, it’s time to reassess:
1. He keeps a check on you
Does your partner constantly keep tabs on you? If yes, then it is a major sign of lack of trust, which in a way is also emotional abuse. If your partner tries to control your whereabouts, then he’s impinging on your personal space and freedom. You need to understand that this is not love or longing–rather, a sheer lack of trust and the constant urge to take control. Everyone deserves to enjoy their independence, irrespective of whether they are in a relationship or not.
2. He tries to isolate you from your family
There are people who restrict their partners from meeting their loved ones. Sound familiar? While there could be a plethora of reasons why your partner might be indulging in such behaviour, perhaps it is the fear of being left alone that is dictating his actions. Mostly, people tend to cut off their partners from their intimate connections to ensure they are there with them 24×7. Trying to remove your partner from their social circle is a major sign of emotional abuse.
3. If he gets angry too often
Is your partner perennially angry? If yes, we know it’s bound to give you panic attacks with every move you make. You will always be scared, thinking how will your partner react to certain situations. Who wants to live a life full of fear and judgment? If your partner gets angry at minor things like if you don’t reply to their text immediately or if there’s no salt in their food, then you have to take a stand for yourself. Overreacting and dragging a situation also causes mental stress and trauma. Remember that!
4. If he forces you to apologise
There may be instances where you may not be wrong, but your partner seeks sadistic pleasure in making you say sorry. If this has happened to you, please know that this is a sign of a dominating partner who likes to act superior in relationships. A healthy relationship will always have two individuals who treat each other as equals.
5. If he constantly brings up his ex
If your partner claims he is over his ex and still brings her up in instances, it’s a red flag. While they may not realise it, but constantly discussing their past relationships can take a severe toll on you emotionally. You may try to ignore it to avoid fights, but we suggest you don’t. Point it out and tell them you have a problem with it. Also, if your partner is still following their ex on social media and engaging with them there–it’s not a good sign. Because let’s face it: that hurts!
6. If he doesn’t respect you
If your partner doesn’t respect you, then there shouldn’t be any place for adjustment–because for a relationship to flourish, trust and respect are important. Calling your SO names in an argument or threatening to leave, is a sure sign of emotional abuse. Does he also check your text messages and other social media accounts? If yes, then they don’t even respect your privacy.
