Breakups are painful and take a toll on us emotionally. What follows next usually is venting out on social media with some super-emotional quotes and corny posts. The emotional turmoil is completely understandable, but that often leads us making a fool of ourselves on social media–and regretting it later.
So why would you want to land yourself in such a situation? After the breakup, you want to smash stuff, scream at the top of your voice, and then, cry your heart out. By all means, you should it! Do everything you want, but refrain from reacting on social media. But we all know that ultimately we’ll commit that mistake. So if you find yourself hovering on Facebook, with emotions seeping out of your pores, remember these points.
1. Don’t change your relationship status immediately
You broke up with your partner, but the entire world doesn’t need to know. Your friends and common peeps already know about it–so your Facebook feed doesn’t need to change immediately. It’s a personal crisis, so you don’t need to shout from the rooftops and let each and everyone know. Keep it close. Let people figure it out on their own.
2. The business of blocking
The game of unfriending your ex and blocking them on social platforms is a done to death concept. You do it in the heat of the moment, and later realise you shouldn’t have. It’s okay to unfriend them if their presence in your friend list or his updates bother you way too much. If you wish to stay friends with your ex, then it’s probably not the best idea to unfriend or block him. On a completely different note, if you react too early on social media it lets your partner know how much you’re affected. You don’t want that, right?
3. Stalking
Believe it or not, stalking your ex will do you no good. Once you start, it becomes a routine and you don’t even realise it. You tend to look at their profile everyday and hurt yourself even more. You get affected seeing their happy pictures and night outs with friends. It hits you worse when you see them with a new partner.
4. Posting pictures with a new partner
This one is a big NO-NO! We understand you need a shoulder to lean on and vent your emotional grudge–but that person can’t be your new partner so soon. His pictures should definitely not go up on your social media. We say this not because you will be judged, but by doing it you may invite more trouble. You’ve gotten into it too early. You know what we mean, don’t you? Doing it intentionally to hurt your ex is really cruel. Imagine if the roles were reversed and your partner does the same to you. How would you feel?
5. Don’t pretend to be okay!
You aren’t okay at all. No matter how painful it may sound–but that’s the harsh truth. You are not okay. Nobody is, after a breakup! Hence, you need to stop pretending that you are fine, especially on social media. Don’t go all out posting motivational quotes on heartbreaks and love on your social media. It’s stupid, plain stupid. Don’t fake it, if you aren’t happy. Remember, there will always be that one friend who would take a screenshot of your post and circulate it among the common friends. You don’t need that in your life.
6. Tinder CAN’T be the solution
The first advice you receive after your breakup, is to join Tinder. Tinder has become the one-stop destination to fix all heartbreaks. But it’s not! Tinder can’t fix the pain you’re going through. Moreover, talking to random strangers can get awkward right after a breakup. Instead, spend some time with yourself and do things you like to get over it.
